Girls and Guys: Advice for me on having ';The Talk'; with my boyfriend?

About where our relationship is heading, future - marriage - kids, if any of that is in the cards for us. I'm nervous as heck.


I'm 29, hes 30, been together 2 and a half years.





What


and


How


should I begin the conversation?





***Please no mean answers.Girls and Guys: Advice for me on having ';The Talk'; with my boyfriend?
Have a romantic night out with him, and have the ';talk'; after the evening is coming to an end. let him know that because the two of you have been together for more than two years that it may be time to move the relationship forward to something more committed. Good luck to you.Girls and Guys: Advice for me on having ';The Talk'; with my boyfriend?
You're 29, dated for 2 1/2 years and don't think you can just start the conversation? Wow. You need to just open up to him and be completely honest about how you feel about your relationship and when you would like to move forward. If he loves you, he will want to have the conversation - if he doesn't, then you need to know so you can move on.
Just tell him it's been a couple of years and you are thinking it's about time you settled down. Tell him you've been thinking about having a family of your own. Then ask him if he's looking for something similar or not ready for it. Just find out if he's in the same place in life as you are. If not, decide whether or not you feel like waiting. Personally i think 2 years is more than enough to decide something like that. I mean either it's on or it's not. So just ask him. Don't go shock him; although you'll likely to get a more honest answer that way. Maybe mention it over dinner.
Just tell him that at some point you will have to and that when you are ready you will.
At your age, and after having been together for 2.5 years, I would think you guys would have covered this... It all depends on what stage your relationship is as to how you should go about it. Do you live together? If not, maybe mention that. Just be straight up with him. Don't beat around the bush. Tell him exactly what you think you want, and ask him what he wants. Don't be confrontational, or get offended. Good luck.
Just start talking about it, you 2 are old enough and have enough history. Don't sweat it
Casually bring it up. Like if you and him are watching tv or eating dinner together. Say you have been thinking a lot lately about the future and you would like to know where you two are headed. Ask him where he wants the relationship to go. Its time you two had this conversation so he shouldnt be angry or upset about you asking him this. Its a very valid question.
Just go out to lunch, unwind with a cocktail or two, and then tell him that you've asked him out to have a civil discussion about the future. The couple drinks should have you guys nice and relaxed, and you'll get some honest feedback. If you guys find yourselves not on the same page regarding how you see the future, don't get defensive, just tell him you want to find out the basics first. You can have another discussion in the future, on how you guys want to proceed figuring out the points in which you differ.
find a time where he is not easily distracted or busy doing something else and ask him .. what does he think about marriage and all the other things you want to talk to him about.. what does he feel about .. etc.


ask him if he wants to take the relationship to a new level of commitment


or where does he want the relationship with you to go...
Drop the ';girlfriend'; status when you have this talk. HAVE a FRIEND attitude and talk to him like a friend. Let him say whatever is in his heart. Listen to what he tells you. Hesitancy and fear are going to be normal, so if you take the girl part out of the conversation, you'll be a friend to help him talk to you and that's what you want, him to talk to you.





Tell him encouraging things about the relationship and about him. Tell him what you like about him, how he makes you feel and that you truely love him. Then tell him what you want for the future. Let him tell you what he wants for the future. Then ask if he feel you are someone that he'd like to have that experience with. NO PRESSURE, NO ANGER, NO anything but friend. You'll get the best out of him this way.