What are some things you say to your guy when your having sex? My guy wants to spice things up and im nervous about talking dirty to him. What are some good suggestions or phrases you say?Good Dirty Talk...Girls and Guys advice please?
ooooh baby you feel so good inside of me
mmmmm babe you're so hard
best if you whisper it in his ear while your moaning to get the FULL effect!Good Dirty Talk...Girls and Guys advice please?
I dont think you have to be dirty, what I would suggest is just start by telling him how it feels say your thoughts out loud (as long as you dont mention another mans name :)) , and then get him to replicate by saying how you feel and the like......
OMG I have like no idea... I've given you a star though cause I want to know too!!
Friday, April 30, 2010
Thanks for advice guys, with the diamond blade can this cut half circle to the slab to fit around draincover?
It would be easier to buy a special plastic cover for the drainpipe, which will have a square section you can cut the slabs to fit round. Proper draincovers are easily removable when you need to look at the drainhole for maintenance. Yuo might be able to cut a large, wide curve with a diamond blade if you had lots of practice (and a few spare slabs for mistakes!) but not as tight as round a drainpipe.Thanks for advice guys, with the diamond blade can this cut half circle to the slab to fit around draincover?
No a diamond blade is designed only to cut straight lines, you need a core drill. measure the drain pipe and hire a core drill to do the jobThanks for advice guys, with the diamond blade can this cut half circle to the slab to fit around draincover?
Robert son is right.
No a diamond blade is designed only to cut straight lines, you need a core drill. measure the drain pipe and hire a core drill to do the jobThanks for advice guys, with the diamond blade can this cut half circle to the slab to fit around draincover?
Robert son is right.
Advice on getting a guys attention?
Ok so i like this guy but he only sees me as a friend AND he has a girlfriend. I really like him. Hes funny smart cool sooo cute and is into twilight and harry potter just like me!
Im not really sure what to do. I mean we talk and text a lot and we've been to the movies together (twice) but he just doesnt see me as somethin more than a friend.
Also im having a bday party soon should i invite him?Advice on getting a guys attention?
If he doesn't see you as anything more than a friend AND he has a girlfriend (like you said, exactly), then what the hell are you still doing trying to get his attention? He doesn't want you to get his attention. Its clear he wants you as a friend. So either be there as just a friend or don't be there at all.
Really? Home-wrecking so early? Girl, you need to learn the rules of the game. Wait your turn, ok? We all do. It sucks, trust me, I've been to hell and back because of these rules but they're there for a reason. I wouldn't want any girl posting a question about getting my boyfriend's attention. Just like I also wouldn't want any of my guy friends posting up questions on how to get my attention when I have a boyfriend.Advice on getting a guys attention?
You might not think this but you have already been on a date with him. If he had any respect for his girlfriend he would not have went on a date with you or '; just a friends'; as you see it. Look you got him you just do not know it . All you got to do now is pretend to be busy and watch how fast he changes . Also invite more guys to your party so it looks like you may be interested in someone else.
gl
Jeneye makeup pictures
Im not really sure what to do. I mean we talk and text a lot and we've been to the movies together (twice) but he just doesnt see me as somethin more than a friend.
Also im having a bday party soon should i invite him?Advice on getting a guys attention?
If he doesn't see you as anything more than a friend AND he has a girlfriend (like you said, exactly), then what the hell are you still doing trying to get his attention? He doesn't want you to get his attention. Its clear he wants you as a friend. So either be there as just a friend or don't be there at all.
Really? Home-wrecking so early? Girl, you need to learn the rules of the game. Wait your turn, ok? We all do. It sucks, trust me, I've been to hell and back because of these rules but they're there for a reason. I wouldn't want any girl posting a question about getting my boyfriend's attention. Just like I also wouldn't want any of my guy friends posting up questions on how to get my attention when I have a boyfriend.Advice on getting a guys attention?
You might not think this but you have already been on a date with him. If he had any respect for his girlfriend he would not have went on a date with you or '; just a friends'; as you see it. Look you got him you just do not know it . All you got to do now is pretend to be busy and watch how fast he changes . Also invite more guys to your party so it looks like you may be interested in someone else.
gl
Jen
Some guys advice would be nice?
and be serious.. but what would you do if you found out a girl had a promise ring??Some guys advice would be nice?
If you're talking about a promise ring like my generation had, I'd leave her alone as she's going to be engaged.
If you're talking about the abstinence style promise ring that seems to be the current thing going on, I don't think it would change things much. if it's a girl I'd like to date, i'd date her regardless of whether or not she would have sex with me.Some guys advice would be nice?
Well in my day, a promise meant that you were committed to someone and therefore unavailable. If a person wearing a promise ring went out with another person on a date, it would be considered cheating. This also applies to the person who gave the ring. They have made a committment and should not be dating anyone else.
If that is not the type of relationship you want to be in, then don't accept the ring or don't give it, whichever side of this question you are on....
I'm a girl but if a girl is wearing another guy's promise ring then she is probably not over him and probably wears it because she hopes to get back with him some day so therefore any relationship or guy at this point in her life really means nothing. I have a ring my ex gave me and I still keep it, I would wear it if I knew it wouldnt weird him out but I think it would so I keep it in my drawer. If she openly wears it then they are probably still talking even though theyre not together.
promise ring means that the girl is making a promise to god and herself to not have sex til marriage, if you dont understand that and think its stupid then you shouldnt go out with her and dont try talking her out of wearing it, it just leads to problems, i need points so best answer plz
automatic dis-qualifier. If a girl has a promise ring that I didn't give her, forget it. She's taken, maybe not by title, but by emotion. You don't just keep things for the heck of it. She obviously has feelings for someone else, and that's a game i've learned not to play.
I was actually serious in my last answer. Like I said, I probably wouldn't even notice. Be disappointed if all I wanted was a hookup.
Be happy if I wanted a relationship bc you want to date a good girl with good values.
Wtf is a promise ring?
Edit: Googling.....
Edit: Id be like wtf, you made a promise to him, yet you're talking to me... Harsh!
Then id ask if you wanted to f@ck.
i wouldn't be very happy, is that like a purity ring? a ring that reminds u cant physical intercourse or touch someone becuz u r Christian or something
i wouldnt be as interested knowing that its not going anywhere.... the ring of death is scary for guys unless they dont want to do anything either
If I would approach her and she showed any interest while having a promise ring, she's as trust worthy as a con man.
Promise ring or no promise ring, I would be continue on with whatever errand I had to tend to. Why go out of my way for anything else?
i seriosly wouldn't care if i like them then i like them whether they can have sex yet or not but i'm probablyu younger tahn you so idk
be amazed people actually wear those things, but you didnt say if she's my friend or girl-friend so ... i wouldnt care because she's just a girl?
hmm, ring on the finger means no go and are you sure its a promise ring and it means that?
a guy probably wouldn't like that because it means you're ';emotionally'; taken.
well respect her feelings! duh! don't pressure her to do anything she doesn't want to do!
Well nothing really.
I would lay off. She has promised herself to someone else.
well good bye :{ Satan hates promise rings:}
Try harder
thats an automatic no, unless you just wanna fool around, cuz then if shes flirting with you thats what she wants
ask her whats up and dont jump to conclusions
if the ring means your not gonna have sex i wouldnt talk to you
I'm a virgin so I wouldn't care.
I'd be like are u serious about me or r u just using me? Or is that just one of ur values
Could care less, I gave my ex one and we broke up like 4 months later. They don't always mean something.
what??
idk what that is lol
If you're talking about a promise ring like my generation had, I'd leave her alone as she's going to be engaged.
If you're talking about the abstinence style promise ring that seems to be the current thing going on, I don't think it would change things much. if it's a girl I'd like to date, i'd date her regardless of whether or not she would have sex with me.Some guys advice would be nice?
Well in my day, a promise meant that you were committed to someone and therefore unavailable. If a person wearing a promise ring went out with another person on a date, it would be considered cheating. This also applies to the person who gave the ring. They have made a committment and should not be dating anyone else.
If that is not the type of relationship you want to be in, then don't accept the ring or don't give it, whichever side of this question you are on....
I'm a girl but if a girl is wearing another guy's promise ring then she is probably not over him and probably wears it because she hopes to get back with him some day so therefore any relationship or guy at this point in her life really means nothing. I have a ring my ex gave me and I still keep it, I would wear it if I knew it wouldnt weird him out but I think it would so I keep it in my drawer. If she openly wears it then they are probably still talking even though theyre not together.
promise ring means that the girl is making a promise to god and herself to not have sex til marriage, if you dont understand that and think its stupid then you shouldnt go out with her and dont try talking her out of wearing it, it just leads to problems, i need points so best answer plz
automatic dis-qualifier. If a girl has a promise ring that I didn't give her, forget it. She's taken, maybe not by title, but by emotion. You don't just keep things for the heck of it. She obviously has feelings for someone else, and that's a game i've learned not to play.
I was actually serious in my last answer. Like I said, I probably wouldn't even notice. Be disappointed if all I wanted was a hookup.
Be happy if I wanted a relationship bc you want to date a good girl with good values.
Wtf is a promise ring?
Edit: Googling.....
Edit: Id be like wtf, you made a promise to him, yet you're talking to me... Harsh!
Then id ask if you wanted to f@ck.
i wouldn't be very happy, is that like a purity ring? a ring that reminds u cant physical intercourse or touch someone becuz u r Christian or something
i wouldnt be as interested knowing that its not going anywhere.... the ring of death is scary for guys unless they dont want to do anything either
If I would approach her and she showed any interest while having a promise ring, she's as trust worthy as a con man.
Promise ring or no promise ring, I would be continue on with whatever errand I had to tend to. Why go out of my way for anything else?
i seriosly wouldn't care if i like them then i like them whether they can have sex yet or not but i'm probablyu younger tahn you so idk
be amazed people actually wear those things, but you didnt say if she's my friend or girl-friend so ... i wouldnt care because she's just a girl?
hmm, ring on the finger means no go and are you sure its a promise ring and it means that?
a guy probably wouldn't like that because it means you're ';emotionally'; taken.
well respect her feelings! duh! don't pressure her to do anything she doesn't want to do!
Well nothing really.
I would lay off. She has promised herself to someone else.
well good bye :{ Satan hates promise rings:}
Try harder
thats an automatic no, unless you just wanna fool around, cuz then if shes flirting with you thats what she wants
ask her whats up and dont jump to conclusions
if the ring means your not gonna have sex i wouldnt talk to you
I'm a virgin so I wouldn't care.
I'd be like are u serious about me or r u just using me? Or is that just one of ur values
Could care less, I gave my ex one and we broke up like 4 months later. They don't always mean something.
what??
idk what that is lol
Impress a guy? advice from guys and gals plz!?
Okay what should i wear?
and what kind of makeup? i dont wear aolot though?
and how to act?Impress a guy? advice from guys and gals plz!?
If you want a guy to like you for the very best reason of all....Yourself, just be yourself.
Wear what you like to wear. What is comfortable, fits well and flatters your figure. You are more confident when you are wearing clothes that make you happy and feel good about yourself.
If you don't wear a lot of makeup, don't change, just for some guy. If he really is interested, he will be interested, makeup or no.
Act like your own charming self. Be real. Be sweet and genuine.
Don't go changing yourself, tying yourself in knots with anxiety and stress just to get some guy's attention. Any guy worth a second look from you will admire and like you for you. Not some faked-up version of what you think he wants you to be.Impress a guy? advice from guys and gals plz!?
wear what you like.
make up isnt really necesaary. but if you really want wear something natural looking.
act like you. be you. if he doesnt like YOU then forget him.
ok first of all, don't get caught up on him but n e way, wear something flattering like this
';http://www.polyvore.com/cgi/img-set/B鈥?
and do ur makeup like this
http://www.wallpaperbase.com/wallpapers/celebs/mileycyrus/miley_cyrus_1.jpg
to do that use 2 coats of black mascara, light gold eyeshadow allover ur eye lids, no eyeliner,and light gold blush, clear gloss
use the gold to makeit work 4 u
for hair do this
http://www.e-wig.info/images/extensions/mini_clip_curls.jpg
(the big pic)
and thats it
wear what ever YOU like and think is cute!
keep it simple....eyeliner,mascara,and maybe some eye shadow to match ur outfit...?
act you and only you!
cuz if ya dont than...he'll later find out the real you!
act confident
try mascara.. really black
Not sure if u're gonna appreciate this or not...but there's no such thing as impressing a guy. U are who you are, and he'll figure that out, either the second he sees you or over time. So be yourself, dont wear too much makeup (too fake for guys) some lip gloss, mascara and a little eyeliner should do. Dont overdress...a cute pair of jeans, flats, and a nice shirt usually does the trick, if u're gonna be out on a date. Anyhow... be urself! the more simple and fun, the better.
you should wear what you want and wear whatever makeup looks good on you, but not too much. when trying to impress people you do not act, you be yourself!
dont worry about impressing guys, u will regret impress urself and do whay u want that will make u happy
A lot of guys like tight clothing; tight jeans, tight tanks or spaghetti straps. Wear lipgloss with lots of color. And mascara or liquid eyeliner. Just be yourself. If I were a guy, I'd hate to have a girl acting like someone else and not her normal self.
Hope you like these tips!
and what kind of makeup? i dont wear aolot though?
and how to act?Impress a guy? advice from guys and gals plz!?
If you want a guy to like you for the very best reason of all....Yourself, just be yourself.
Wear what you like to wear. What is comfortable, fits well and flatters your figure. You are more confident when you are wearing clothes that make you happy and feel good about yourself.
If you don't wear a lot of makeup, don't change, just for some guy. If he really is interested, he will be interested, makeup or no.
Act like your own charming self. Be real. Be sweet and genuine.
Don't go changing yourself, tying yourself in knots with anxiety and stress just to get some guy's attention. Any guy worth a second look from you will admire and like you for you. Not some faked-up version of what you think he wants you to be.Impress a guy? advice from guys and gals plz!?
wear what you like.
make up isnt really necesaary. but if you really want wear something natural looking.
act like you. be you. if he doesnt like YOU then forget him.
ok first of all, don't get caught up on him but n e way, wear something flattering like this
';http://www.polyvore.com/cgi/img-set/B鈥?
and do ur makeup like this
http://www.wallpaperbase.com/wallpapers/celebs/mileycyrus/miley_cyrus_1.jpg
to do that use 2 coats of black mascara, light gold eyeshadow allover ur eye lids, no eyeliner,and light gold blush, clear gloss
use the gold to makeit work 4 u
for hair do this
http://www.e-wig.info/images/extensions/mini_clip_curls.jpg
(the big pic)
and thats it
wear what ever YOU like and think is cute!
keep it simple....eyeliner,mascara,and maybe some eye shadow to match ur outfit...?
act you and only you!
cuz if ya dont than...he'll later find out the real you!
act confident
try mascara.. really black
Not sure if u're gonna appreciate this or not...but there's no such thing as impressing a guy. U are who you are, and he'll figure that out, either the second he sees you or over time. So be yourself, dont wear too much makeup (too fake for guys) some lip gloss, mascara and a little eyeliner should do. Dont overdress...a cute pair of jeans, flats, and a nice shirt usually does the trick, if u're gonna be out on a date. Anyhow... be urself! the more simple and fun, the better.
you should wear what you want and wear whatever makeup looks good on you, but not too much. when trying to impress people you do not act, you be yourself!
dont worry about impressing guys, u will regret impress urself and do whay u want that will make u happy
A lot of guys like tight clothing; tight jeans, tight tanks or spaghetti straps. Wear lipgloss with lots of color. And mascara or liquid eyeliner. Just be yourself. If I were a guy, I'd hate to have a girl acting like someone else and not her normal self.
Hope you like these tips!
I am horny all the time and i love guys, any advice to help control the urge,I am 25. Help?
hahhaa. ';stop being a whore'; well, i agree. masturbate, get a dildo, i dont know. anything. just dont get an STD.I am horny all the time and i love guys, any advice to help control the urge,I am 25. Help?
Masturbate.
That way you don't have to deal with guy drama, and you can stop being horny, or get it taken care of right away.I am horny all the time and i love guys, any advice to help control the urge,I am 25. Help?
girl u needa masturbate more often. every girl should know how to pleasure herself.. and invest in a good vibrator, no man -or woman- can compete with a vibrator
You can always masturbate. But hell! what's the problem? Lol if you got the urge why bother taming it? Have some fun.
Really? We should hang out. Id masturbate to control yourself. Buy a vibrator or a dildo, that just might do it.
You remind me of Samantha from sex and the city...
Well you could try masturbating on a regualr basis?
find a hobby
Dang...I'd love to help! ;*)
or i can help with those urges :)
lose weights
When u find a good answer pls tell me...we are the same
Masturbate.
That way you don't have to deal with guy drama, and you can stop being horny, or get it taken care of right away.I am horny all the time and i love guys, any advice to help control the urge,I am 25. Help?
girl u needa masturbate more often. every girl should know how to pleasure herself.. and invest in a good vibrator, no man -or woman- can compete with a vibrator
You can always masturbate. But hell! what's the problem? Lol if you got the urge why bother taming it? Have some fun.
Really? We should hang out. Id masturbate to control yourself. Buy a vibrator or a dildo, that just might do it.
You remind me of Samantha from sex and the city...
Well you could try masturbating on a regualr basis?
find a hobby
Dang...I'd love to help! ;*)
or i can help with those urges :)
lose weights
When u find a good answer pls tell me...we are the same
I need a guys advice on valentines day!!!?
okay, so i made my boyfriend a card and got him these really cute american eagle boxers and its all going in a git bag but i need like one more little thing to go along in the bag and it cant be sweets because he's a health freak.and i also got him something that im wearing (:I need a guys advice on valentines day!!!?
maybe some cologne??I need a guys advice on valentines day!!!?
hello..
if you want read something about gift,special gift,romantic gift,special gift for valentines
i come just accross this blog : http://valentine--special-gift.blogspot.com which may help you.
thanks.
maybe some cologne??I need a guys advice on valentines day!!!?
hello..
if you want read something about gift,special gift,romantic gift,special gift for valentines
i come just accross this blog : http://valentine--special-gift.blogspot.com which may help you.
thanks.
I NEED A GUYS ADVICE (GIRLS CAN ANSWER TOO)?
if you are turning 20 or your 20th has passed, what did your girlfriend buy for you or what would you like her to buy for you?
(im asking this question because i need help with my boyfriends 20th he likes sentimental things but i have bought enough of those already lol)
thx :D xI NEED A GUYS ADVICE (GIRLS CAN ANSWER TOO)?
i know i already answered this to one of your questions you've asked about the same situatuion, but im just emphasizing (spelled right?)
you should make him like a scrapbook. include pictures of you two, movie tickets, write down special dates like March 16 or w/e, print out IMs you two had, or emails, or anything else that is special to the both of you. make it all nice and special, not bland and dull. something memorable from the heart. you can even include ';coupons'; for a night alone or something. hope i helped!!I NEED A GUYS ADVICE (GIRLS CAN ANSWER TOO)?
buy nothing. Just please him. You know what I'm saying.eye makeup pictures
(im asking this question because i need help with my boyfriends 20th he likes sentimental things but i have bought enough of those already lol)
thx :D xI NEED A GUYS ADVICE (GIRLS CAN ANSWER TOO)?
i know i already answered this to one of your questions you've asked about the same situatuion, but im just emphasizing (spelled right?)
you should make him like a scrapbook. include pictures of you two, movie tickets, write down special dates like March 16 or w/e, print out IMs you two had, or emails, or anything else that is special to the both of you. make it all nice and special, not bland and dull. something memorable from the heart. you can even include ';coupons'; for a night alone or something. hope i helped!!I NEED A GUYS ADVICE (GIRLS CAN ANSWER TOO)?
buy nothing. Just please him. You know what I'm saying.
Gonig to my mates sleepova (guys sleepova) Advice?
I have pubes around my penis and that but no I have some really dark ones growing in the space between my belly-button and where the other pubes are.
The advice/question I have is should I shave the hairs above my pubes off cos do you think my mates will take the piss or be like saying nothing... thanks.Gonig to my mates sleepova (guys sleepova) Advice?
Don't shave anything dude. Not sure why you would think of that. You are just developing into a man, just like the other guys you will be with. What you described is typically called a ';treasure trail'; since girls will trace it down into the pants for the ';treasure'; if you get my drift. You may well be more hairy than your friends, but so what. Everyone develops differently in puberty. Plus any hair you shave off just will grow back quickly. Most body hair other than on the head will naturally break off at a certain length, so it doesn't have to be trimmed.Gonig to my mates sleepova (guys sleepova) Advice?
If you're a guy, it's perfectly normal, the other guys are just jealous.
It also depends whether YOU want it there, it's part of puberty and in my opinion, keep it. The other guys will either already have it or get it soon.
A lot of guys have hair there. I'm in South Africa and not in America but here you definately have a lot more piss taken out of you for shaving your pubes while still in school. Leave them as they are.
Keep them - if they take the piss, it will be because you're more of a man than they are, and they are jealous.
Be proud of what you have.
The best advice is to bring condoms and a bottle of lubricant dear, for your comfort and safety.
Enjoy...
Just trim them, most guys don't shave their pubes anyway.
Just leave them be:he will get them too or already have them like you
What's the big deal anyway?
Planets.
No big deal. Maybe trim then a bit. Otherwise, not to worry. Maybe some of your mates have the same?
a lot of guys have hair there. you should use cinnamon and the hair will just fall off.
I've never been to any friend's house where we sat around making fun of each other's happy trails. Play XBox or something.
are you gonna show your penis to them?
The advice/question I have is should I shave the hairs above my pubes off cos do you think my mates will take the piss or be like saying nothing... thanks.Gonig to my mates sleepova (guys sleepova) Advice?
Don't shave anything dude. Not sure why you would think of that. You are just developing into a man, just like the other guys you will be with. What you described is typically called a ';treasure trail'; since girls will trace it down into the pants for the ';treasure'; if you get my drift. You may well be more hairy than your friends, but so what. Everyone develops differently in puberty. Plus any hair you shave off just will grow back quickly. Most body hair other than on the head will naturally break off at a certain length, so it doesn't have to be trimmed.Gonig to my mates sleepova (guys sleepova) Advice?
If you're a guy, it's perfectly normal, the other guys are just jealous.
It also depends whether YOU want it there, it's part of puberty and in my opinion, keep it. The other guys will either already have it or get it soon.
A lot of guys have hair there. I'm in South Africa and not in America but here you definately have a lot more piss taken out of you for shaving your pubes while still in school. Leave them as they are.
Keep them - if they take the piss, it will be because you're more of a man than they are, and they are jealous.
Be proud of what you have.
The best advice is to bring condoms and a bottle of lubricant dear, for your comfort and safety.
Enjoy...
Just trim them, most guys don't shave their pubes anyway.
Just leave them be:he will get them too or already have them like you
What's the big deal anyway?
Planets.
No big deal. Maybe trim then a bit. Otherwise, not to worry. Maybe some of your mates have the same?
a lot of guys have hair there. you should use cinnamon and the hair will just fall off.
I've never been to any friend's house where we sat around making fun of each other's happy trails. Play XBox or something.
are you gonna show your penis to them?
Thanks for advice guys, with the diamond blade can this cut half circle to the slab to fit around draincover?
It would be easier to buy a special plastic cover for the drainpipe, which will have a square section you can cut the slabs to fit round. Proper draincovers are easily removable when you need to look at the drainhole for maintenance. Yuo might be able to cut a large, wide curve with a diamond blade if you had lots of practice (and a few spare slabs for mistakes!) but not as tight as round a drainpipe.Thanks for advice guys, with the diamond blade can this cut half circle to the slab to fit around draincover?
No a diamond blade is designed only to cut straight lines, you need a core drill. measure the drain pipe and hire a core drill to do the jobThanks for advice guys, with the diamond blade can this cut half circle to the slab to fit around draincover?
Robert son is right.
No a diamond blade is designed only to cut straight lines, you need a core drill. measure the drain pipe and hire a core drill to do the jobThanks for advice guys, with the diamond blade can this cut half circle to the slab to fit around draincover?
Robert son is right.
There's a bumb on my dogs head I dont want to take him to the vet I can't aford it any of you guys have advice
Guys please should I use a bit of achol or something pleaseThere's a bumb on my dogs head I dont want to take him to the vet I can't aford it any of you guys have advice
Nobody can tell you jack about this ';bump'; without seeing it and a throrough exam. It's unfortunate you don't have money, but its irresponsible to be asking Jo schmo, thirteen yr olds on line for advice on a living helpless being's health. Call a vet and get some advice that way! At least describing onset and the ';bump'; to a trained (8 years of college) individual would yeild a better response.
-a veterinarianThere's a bumb on my dogs head I dont want to take him to the vet I can't aford it any of you guys have advice
How old is the dog? Have you checked to see if he has ticks on him? Could be a lot of different things, perhaps even a fight with another dog.... need more info. Most vets will let you make payments on their bill. Call around until you find one that will and take your friend in there.
get over it, get the money and take him to the vet. that is your responsibility as a pet owner. You shouln't have gotten a dog if you couln't afford it. If you had a broken leg you would want to go to the hospital, right? If this is a serious problem, and you do nothing, and is fatal as a result you could be charged with animal cruelty. So, what is more affordable now, a responsible trip to the vet or a heavy fine and time in jail? your choice. just make the right one.
depends, did u see him bang his head or could it be a tumour, cyst, infected flea bite? sounds like u need to get it looked at, borrow some money and make ur dog comfortable again!
wellif its a bump under the skin and its hard , like bone then i have to tell you alll dogs have that bump and my dogs have sores and cute from each other and they are just fine even when my dogs face was swolen i let her eat ice and she was fine i assure you unless its effected dont bother to take her to the vet
P.S.if its a swore put triple antibiotic oitment on it and clean it really good once a day to make sure its not gonna get in fected most likely it will heal up and be fine.(clean cut with rubbing achol)
put ice-pack
Well, if it's bleeding a bit, don't use alcohol. That'll sting and your dog will yip. It does hurt! You have no choice. It could be a tumor, it could just be a bump. You have no choice if it's a tumor. Take him to the vet! It could be your dog or your money. Try an ice-pack, and if that does nothing, than take him.
Best Wishes to you and your pooch! :D
bumb? u mean a raised spot? could be a huge bloodsucking tick engorged use tweezers to take it out and save it to be tested for lymes disease. take him to a vet
Get over it and do something that you don't want to. It's probably a tumor.
Nobody can tell you jack about this ';bump'; without seeing it and a throrough exam. It's unfortunate you don't have money, but its irresponsible to be asking Jo schmo, thirteen yr olds on line for advice on a living helpless being's health. Call a vet and get some advice that way! At least describing onset and the ';bump'; to a trained (8 years of college) individual would yeild a better response.
-a veterinarianThere's a bumb on my dogs head I dont want to take him to the vet I can't aford it any of you guys have advice
How old is the dog? Have you checked to see if he has ticks on him? Could be a lot of different things, perhaps even a fight with another dog.... need more info. Most vets will let you make payments on their bill. Call around until you find one that will and take your friend in there.
get over it, get the money and take him to the vet. that is your responsibility as a pet owner. You shouln't have gotten a dog if you couln't afford it. If you had a broken leg you would want to go to the hospital, right? If this is a serious problem, and you do nothing, and is fatal as a result you could be charged with animal cruelty. So, what is more affordable now, a responsible trip to the vet or a heavy fine and time in jail? your choice. just make the right one.
depends, did u see him bang his head or could it be a tumour, cyst, infected flea bite? sounds like u need to get it looked at, borrow some money and make ur dog comfortable again!
wellif its a bump under the skin and its hard , like bone then i have to tell you alll dogs have that bump and my dogs have sores and cute from each other and they are just fine even when my dogs face was swolen i let her eat ice and she was fine i assure you unless its effected dont bother to take her to the vet
P.S.if its a swore put triple antibiotic oitment on it and clean it really good once a day to make sure its not gonna get in fected most likely it will heal up and be fine.(clean cut with rubbing achol)
put ice-pack
Well, if it's bleeding a bit, don't use alcohol. That'll sting and your dog will yip. It does hurt! You have no choice. It could be a tumor, it could just be a bump. You have no choice if it's a tumor. Take him to the vet! It could be your dog or your money. Try an ice-pack, and if that does nothing, than take him.
Best Wishes to you and your pooch! :D
bumb? u mean a raised spot? could be a huge bloodsucking tick engorged use tweezers to take it out and save it to be tested for lymes disease. take him to a vet
Get over it and do something that you don't want to. It's probably a tumor.
GUYS HELP!! I need advice on how i can better please my fiance sexually, and be more open with him?
i have been with my fiance for going on 3 years now. we have an amazing sex life, but recently he asked me if we could be more open with each other. i need advice on this! i don't know what he means, but i would like guys input on this please!! anything will help!GUYS HELP!! I need advice on how i can better please my fiance sexually, and be more open with him?
maybe he wants a 3-someGUYS HELP!! I need advice on how i can better please my fiance sexually, and be more open with him?
it could be that he is just wants to tell you
some thing!
I am a guy! I don't think a guy who want to be open is thinking of you as a wife! Just a cool chick to party with. Do not do anything you don't do anything you think you will regret later. Make sure you really talk and understand each other. One of the reasons I love my wife because she is so prudish. Well she was when we first got married after a few years we learn to truly enjoy each other.
Well to me it sounds like he want to add another additioN to the two of you. (THREESOME, FORESUM) Or maybe he want to buy toys and use them on you or something. I tink it is alwaysokay to bring in extra stuff to spice up a relationship. It keeps both of you happy and satisfied, and u will wether him do it with you then go find someone else who is open to it and do it with them
theres books on this.
Give good head... use alot of saliva, and that should be the first
part of foreplay... as far as intercourse just ask him what he likes
best... everyones different. If he cant give you an answer just look
at his face. If he looks pleased. You have done your job
Don't have anyone else but you and your fiance to have sex.
Try using toys and devices to spice things up.
He just wants to explore your sexual fantasies with him and he does the same for you. He wants to discuss it with you.
let him get in on the backdoor if ya know what I mean
maybe he wants a 3-someGUYS HELP!! I need advice on how i can better please my fiance sexually, and be more open with him?
it could be that he is just wants to tell you
some thing!
I am a guy! I don't think a guy who want to be open is thinking of you as a wife! Just a cool chick to party with. Do not do anything you don't do anything you think you will regret later. Make sure you really talk and understand each other. One of the reasons I love my wife because she is so prudish. Well she was when we first got married after a few years we learn to truly enjoy each other.
Well to me it sounds like he want to add another additioN to the two of you. (THREESOME, FORESUM) Or maybe he want to buy toys and use them on you or something. I tink it is alwaysokay to bring in extra stuff to spice up a relationship. It keeps both of you happy and satisfied, and u will wether him do it with you then go find someone else who is open to it and do it with them
theres books on this.
Give good head... use alot of saliva, and that should be the first
part of foreplay... as far as intercourse just ask him what he likes
best... everyones different. If he cant give you an answer just look
at his face. If he looks pleased. You have done your job
Don't have anyone else but you and your fiance to have sex.
Try using toys and devices to spice things up.
He just wants to explore your sexual fantasies with him and he does the same for you. He wants to discuss it with you.
let him get in on the backdoor if ya know what I mean
I need some advice please if you guys could help?
i'm interested in my best friend's sister. i'm sixteen and we've been best friends for six years and when i first met his sister i didn't think much of it. but as she's grown up (she's 14) she has become very attractive. and i don't know what to do because if i tell her i like her i don't want to ruin the relationship i have with my best friend so if you could help please tell me.I need some advice please if you guys could help?
walk up, tell her to get on the ground. Whip out your **** and slap her in the face with it, try not to knock a tooth out. (or get your dick bit off)
Works for me.I need some advice please if you guys could help?
In my opinion I think it would be best if you would not date your best friend sister. Why? Because a majority of those relationships do not work out. If you and her happen to have a problem your best friend he might think it's his responsibility to solve especially since you are his bestfriend. I think it would be best if you asked your bestfriend how he would feel before you begin to take anymore steps towards her. If he doesnt seem to like it I would most defintely keep my distance especially if i vaule the friendship of him. If he does says yes i would still think about it he may just be thinking of the happiness for you.
tell your mate exactly how you feel about her and if he has been your mate for 6 years he should understand but than you have a situation where your mate might feel left if you are spending alot of your time
with his sister and than it could cause conflict between your mate and his sister but at the end of the day your mate could aprove of it and just like to see his sister happy. or talk to his sister see if she feels the same way or is just wanting friends than you will be able to approach him together if she wants more and if she doesnt than you havent u caused any problems for nothing between u and your mate.
it actually depends...do u value the girl more or ur friendship.....do this first....get close to her....n try to see ur friends reaction...if he starts to get angry...n if u value ur friendship more..i suggest u stay away frm her....
You could just ask her out, or you could talk to your best friend and then like say that you like her and all and just move from there.
it wont ruin your friendship. if she likes you back go for it dude.
also if possible wait 2 years till your 18 and she is 16 and then it will be less pedofileish and she will either be hotter or less hot.
but if u dont wanna wait go for it.
stick ur dick in her *** an beat the **** outta your friend if he asks about it after you get done beating the **** out of his sister's ***.
just ask her out,tell her your feelings,you know she probably likes you to.sounds like it
Bros before Hoes? jk.
Anyways just ask you friend if its alright with him. If he says no then no, but if its alright with him then go for it tell her.
BEWARE: As a brother, if you ever made your friends sister cry (x_x) Your friend might not only beat the **** out of you but may never talk to you...... well it all depends on the bro too tho XP
No worries and GL
walk up, tell her to get on the ground. Whip out your **** and slap her in the face with it, try not to knock a tooth out. (or get your dick bit off)
Works for me.I need some advice please if you guys could help?
In my opinion I think it would be best if you would not date your best friend sister. Why? Because a majority of those relationships do not work out. If you and her happen to have a problem your best friend he might think it's his responsibility to solve especially since you are his bestfriend. I think it would be best if you asked your bestfriend how he would feel before you begin to take anymore steps towards her. If he doesnt seem to like it I would most defintely keep my distance especially if i vaule the friendship of him. If he does says yes i would still think about it he may just be thinking of the happiness for you.
tell your mate exactly how you feel about her and if he has been your mate for 6 years he should understand but than you have a situation where your mate might feel left if you are spending alot of your time
with his sister and than it could cause conflict between your mate and his sister but at the end of the day your mate could aprove of it and just like to see his sister happy. or talk to his sister see if she feels the same way or is just wanting friends than you will be able to approach him together if she wants more and if she doesnt than you havent u caused any problems for nothing between u and your mate.
it actually depends...do u value the girl more or ur friendship.....do this first....get close to her....n try to see ur friends reaction...if he starts to get angry...n if u value ur friendship more..i suggest u stay away frm her....
You could just ask her out, or you could talk to your best friend and then like say that you like her and all and just move from there.
it wont ruin your friendship. if she likes you back go for it dude.
also if possible wait 2 years till your 18 and she is 16 and then it will be less pedofileish and she will either be hotter or less hot.
but if u dont wanna wait go for it.
stick ur dick in her *** an beat the **** outta your friend if he asks about it after you get done beating the **** out of his sister's ***.
just ask her out,tell her your feelings,you know she probably likes you to.sounds like it
Bros before Hoes? jk.
Anyways just ask you friend if its alright with him. If he says no then no, but if its alright with him then go for it tell her.
BEWARE: As a brother, if you ever made your friends sister cry (x_x) Your friend might not only beat the **** out of you but may never talk to you...... well it all depends on the bro too tho XP
No worries and GL
Okay, I need a guys advice on my ex.
I'm SO wanting to get over him!
More than a lot of people may understand.
It was a two year deal, I was sure I had played all my cards right.
I was so fricken in love with this guy. Well, - we broke up. -
I felt like I was in a spiraling death, a twist of depression and pure hate.
I then realized, I don't hate the guy, I'm so angry at myself for not being everything he ever wanted.
At least I don't think I was.
We talk, but it isn't talking, it's fighting, screaming, swearing, and I always end up crying. We seem like we want each other dead, when I know I'd rather die than to want that with him. Does he feel the same?
How he can just walk on by without one tear to ever roll down his cheek is just amazing.
Well, what I want to know is - Why can he move on SO easily, like, a different girl in .02 milliseconds, and I can't even look at anything, anyone, or anywhere without something pulling me back.
My bestguyfriend, Marcus, has tried to talk to him, but he always just shrugs and says I was never worth it, but If I wasn't, why did he hang on, and keep me doing the same?
I want to know how guys minds work, so if you could help me out here, I'd really appreciate it.
Okay, I need a guys advice on my ex.
some guys r really stupid. he sounds like one of those guys he probably still likes u but isn't a big enough man to admit it
this isn't ur fault so dont take it out on ur self
i hope u can get over him, good luckOkay, I need a guys advice on my ex.
I'm not a guy so I can't answer this but I just wanted to say I'm sorry about your bad break up...=\ hope you get over him soon...he doesn't sound like he was the best bf if he says you're not worth iteye makeup pictures
More than a lot of people may understand.
It was a two year deal, I was sure I had played all my cards right.
I was so fricken in love with this guy. Well, - we broke up. -
I felt like I was in a spiraling death, a twist of depression and pure hate.
I then realized, I don't hate the guy, I'm so angry at myself for not being everything he ever wanted.
At least I don't think I was.
We talk, but it isn't talking, it's fighting, screaming, swearing, and I always end up crying. We seem like we want each other dead, when I know I'd rather die than to want that with him. Does he feel the same?
How he can just walk on by without one tear to ever roll down his cheek is just amazing.
Well, what I want to know is - Why can he move on SO easily, like, a different girl in .02 milliseconds, and I can't even look at anything, anyone, or anywhere without something pulling me back.
My bestguyfriend, Marcus, has tried to talk to him, but he always just shrugs and says I was never worth it, but If I wasn't, why did he hang on, and keep me doing the same?
I want to know how guys minds work, so if you could help me out here, I'd really appreciate it.
Okay, I need a guys advice on my ex.
some guys r really stupid. he sounds like one of those guys he probably still likes u but isn't a big enough man to admit it
this isn't ur fault so dont take it out on ur self
i hope u can get over him, good luckOkay, I need a guys advice on my ex.
I'm not a guy so I can't answer this but I just wanted to say I'm sorry about your bad break up...=\ hope you get over him soon...he doesn't sound like he was the best bf if he says you're not worth it
Ok i need your guys advice this is serious!?
Hey guys i work at mcdonalds and i know this realy hot girl that also works there (we met amonth ago) im 15 and she is 16 and i was wondering if it is ok to ask her to have oral sex. we are the legal age for sex in canada. Is this sexuall harassment i don't want to get fired from mcdonalds.Ok i need your guys advice this is serious!?
hahahahahhahaahhaahhaa that's great not laughin at you just the situation it sounds like a movie. be like ';yo you wanna make out?'; then when things get good shove her head on your crotch and be like ';go for it babay';Ok i need your guys advice this is serious!?
Your thinking with the wrong head.You should be more worried about work and school work!!!!!
Nice! Girls love it when you ask them that. We love to be treated like whores.
In all seriousness, you really need to spend more time on etiquette and less thinking about the little man between your legs.
Just asking her out to go to a movie could be interpreted by some to be sexual harassment. How do you think she and your manager will respond the question you have in mind?
You might want to try something a little less direct first like, hey about getting together for lunch? See how that goes.
what the heck! why would you just up and ask a girl to give you oral sex? that would be concidered sexual harrassment and you might get fired from your job. dont ask that of her, try to become her partner first
hahahahahhahaahhaahhaa that's great not laughin at you just the situation it sounds like a movie. be like ';yo you wanna make out?'; then when things get good shove her head on your crotch and be like ';go for it babay';Ok i need your guys advice this is serious!?
Your thinking with the wrong head.You should be more worried about work and school work!!!!!
Nice! Girls love it when you ask them that. We love to be treated like whores.
In all seriousness, you really need to spend more time on etiquette and less thinking about the little man between your legs.
Just asking her out to go to a movie could be interpreted by some to be sexual harassment. How do you think she and your manager will respond the question you have in mind?
You might want to try something a little less direct first like, hey about getting together for lunch? See how that goes.
what the heck! why would you just up and ask a girl to give you oral sex? that would be concidered sexual harrassment and you might get fired from your job. dont ask that of her, try to become her partner first
I need guys advice so girls but out plz!?
i like this hot jock { sorta not toopopular} how do i get his attention?!I need guys advice so girls but out plz!?
So how do you get a guys attention. Well first of all, smile with just a little wink as you start to look downward and away. Just make sure you do have eye contact. That will get his attention. Just don't be to forward with you silliness. Say hi when you can and start a conversation.
Good luck I need guys advice so girls but out plz!?
talk to him...abt general stuff..dont go out of the blue an talk to him...that wld be weird n creepy...appoach gradually...u dont wnna scare him off...but drop a few hints that u mght hav a thng for him...
go slap his butt,
and say hey hottie wanna go out friday night.
:)
flashing always works...or just say hi and small talk
So how do you get a guys attention. Well first of all, smile with just a little wink as you start to look downward and away. Just make sure you do have eye contact. That will get his attention. Just don't be to forward with you silliness. Say hi when you can and start a conversation.
Good luck I need guys advice so girls but out plz!?
talk to him...abt general stuff..dont go out of the blue an talk to him...that wld be weird n creepy...appoach gradually...u dont wnna scare him off...but drop a few hints that u mght hav a thng for him...
go slap his butt,
and say hey hottie wanna go out friday night.
:)
flashing always works...or just say hi and small talk
Do you think it is good dating advice for mothers to tell their daughters don't date all guys just want sex?
well actually it is something my grandmother says- and my mom as well- from like age 13 and up to me, their girl, that most guys are liars and cheaters and all they want is to get in a girl's pants and they will tell her anything to get in her pants, and it is better to not date and wait around on guys and to focus on your school work! because these young boys will give you an std or get you pregnant, and they don't care. they won't take care of the child.Do you think it is good dating advice for mothers to tell their daughters don't date all guys just want sex?
no because then how are guys suppose to have sex with your daughter? Your killing us. Or she will become that chick that just gives out bjs to guys but doesn't date themDo you think it is good dating advice for mothers to tell their daughters don't date all guys just want sex?
I don't think that's the way to talk to you about sex, but you have to consider why they talk to you about sex and dating that way. They know how serious the decisions are you have to make, and they want you to be as safe as possible. To think about it another way, people tell kids horror stories about drugs that mostly aren't true. They make you think that the first time you do cocaine you'll become an addict and your life will fall apart. This probably won't happen, but it's the only way parents know how to emphasize the seriousness of drugs.
Not all guys just want sex. you just have to find the guys that aren't all about sex.. a guy that actually cares about you. when you start dating a guy take it slow, and if he pushes it till him you want to wait for a while, and if he sticks around he cares about more then just sex, if he breaks up with you, or keeps pushing it then all he cares about is sex. you just gotta weed out the good ones from the bad ones. good luck, it takes a long time to find the right guy, but when you do it's worth it.
Yeah that is really bad advice. I understand your gramar and mother is coming from. They don't want to see anyone getting hurt, maybe because something happened from a previous relationship.
Giving out incorrect advice is dishonest and is actually lying. I know your trying to protect your loved ones but saying that isnt going to make anything better it's a relaity of life. It people didnt make mistakes, then people wouldnt learn, and then people wouldnt become better people because there wouldnt be anyhting to improve on.
Sure Std and getting pregaunt is a risk, but it's a protecting yourself?. Maybe giving advice on how to proctect would be better than saying '; ALL BOYS ARE LIEARS AND CHEATERS.';
Good luck!
no, it sounds more of a grandma and mom worried sick aabout their';lil girl';out in the dating world. Afraid she will not make right choices for her body and health, afraid she will be pressured into having sex and ending up pregant. Perhaps being over protective to the point of lying to the girl and hopefully scaring the girl from even noticing boys until she is much older.
But, saying that..boys of 13 and upward are changing ..raging hormones and all. But that is a life cycle.it does not make them horrible creeps.
Take their adive with a grain of salt..know they are trying to protect you..and just keep showing them what a responsible person you are.
um...i wouldnt say dont date AT ALL cuz u should enjoy ur childhood/teen years but i'm not saying have sexual relations at all ok? cuz u should really really wait till ur ready but that is sooooooo not tru thats not all guys want. thats horrible that they would say something like that and its really stereotypical of them to say that D:%26lt; thats just kinda effed up if u ask me
BUT they're probly just sayin that so they can have the luxury of being 100% sure that u wont have sex -_-
Dont have sex till ur older, but that doesnt mean u cant date.
Portions of what is described above is good advice.
When you're young it is best to focus on an education rather then boys.
The chances of an education going somewhere is much higher then a intimate relationship between two children.
Sounds like your mom and grandma are a wee bit paranoid. maybe they are speaking from their experience. Just tell them you have better judgment than them.
That is a terrible thing to say, What about your grandpa?? Or your father??
There are tons of great guys out there. Yes there are some creeps too. but to Label every guy like that? That's just wrong.
No, I don't think it's good advice. It's just another stereotype. It's the same as saying to a boy ';Don't date girls, they're all gold-diggers and all they want is your money.';
Spreading generalization and sexism isn't going to help anyone.
i think that's bad advice. It is telling a girl that to date you have to have sex which isn't true. You can casually date and see if you really like someone. I think the best thing to teach is that sex is sacred adn to be careful.
i think a sweeping generalization like that is ridiculous. im 17 and i have been with the same girl for going on 3 years and we still havent had sex once, and im still a virgin. so there is some hope for her =] give her a chance
not all guys are liars and jerks but there certainly are a lot of them and you should keep your eyes open. make sure your with a guy who is with you because he likes you, not because he wants to get in your pants
I'm a guy, and im not exactly looking for sex, i just want somebody who loves me or something.
sex is great, but its what a relationship is about.
find a guy that is your friend, and cares about you that won't hurt you and that you care about.
If you must do something what ever you do, use protection. The last thing you need to do is end up pregnant.
No, this is the truth.
Good for you, you should tell her the truth!
I am a guy and this is for real; we only want sex. TELL HER!
No, I think that's awful dating advice, as it is horribly unrealistic.
if anyone says its not true they are lieing! guys think about sex 24/7 but its not like EVERY guy wants to screw u. Once in a while u will actually find the nice guy. Just be careful u can easily spot the dogs..
MOST guys just want sex. Really, most.
I think it is very good advice. Because it is very true.
Most guys are liars and cheaters.
tht is good advice
bad for guys but good for you
excellent advice
dont give this dating advice.
itll make them do it behind your back and you will never find out.
No. That doesn't sound like good advice to me.
obviously mom and grandma did not follow their own advise or you would not be here
No some guys are like that you just have to be smart on who u date and dont let them take care or you. if you ever ever need any help ill help you just email me or anything
ildsubway@yahoo.com
i think its their way of saying wait till ur 18
Yeah it seems to be that your grandma and mom are MEN HATERS as they say because they got burned alot. Well what my mom says is ';No bodys gonna want the cow if they get the milk for free';. Guys think about sex every 5 seconds. But hey we woman areint all that great either. What I suggest is when you date a guy, never give up sex right away make them wait awhile so that they know, your not the kind of girl that just gives it up for anybody and that they cant just use you. Some woman think if they have sex with a man theyll stick around. Well whats the fun in that. Its better to get to know someone then when your both ready to have sex you know that you like one another and that you made the right decision.
no because then how are guys suppose to have sex with your daughter? Your killing us. Or she will become that chick that just gives out bjs to guys but doesn't date themDo you think it is good dating advice for mothers to tell their daughters don't date all guys just want sex?
I don't think that's the way to talk to you about sex, but you have to consider why they talk to you about sex and dating that way. They know how serious the decisions are you have to make, and they want you to be as safe as possible. To think about it another way, people tell kids horror stories about drugs that mostly aren't true. They make you think that the first time you do cocaine you'll become an addict and your life will fall apart. This probably won't happen, but it's the only way parents know how to emphasize the seriousness of drugs.
Not all guys just want sex. you just have to find the guys that aren't all about sex.. a guy that actually cares about you. when you start dating a guy take it slow, and if he pushes it till him you want to wait for a while, and if he sticks around he cares about more then just sex, if he breaks up with you, or keeps pushing it then all he cares about is sex. you just gotta weed out the good ones from the bad ones. good luck, it takes a long time to find the right guy, but when you do it's worth it.
Yeah that is really bad advice. I understand your gramar and mother is coming from. They don't want to see anyone getting hurt, maybe because something happened from a previous relationship.
Giving out incorrect advice is dishonest and is actually lying. I know your trying to protect your loved ones but saying that isnt going to make anything better it's a relaity of life. It people didnt make mistakes, then people wouldnt learn, and then people wouldnt become better people because there wouldnt be anyhting to improve on.
Sure Std and getting pregaunt is a risk, but it's a protecting yourself?. Maybe giving advice on how to proctect would be better than saying '; ALL BOYS ARE LIEARS AND CHEATERS.';
Good luck!
no, it sounds more of a grandma and mom worried sick aabout their';lil girl';out in the dating world. Afraid she will not make right choices for her body and health, afraid she will be pressured into having sex and ending up pregant. Perhaps being over protective to the point of lying to the girl and hopefully scaring the girl from even noticing boys until she is much older.
But, saying that..boys of 13 and upward are changing ..raging hormones and all. But that is a life cycle.it does not make them horrible creeps.
Take their adive with a grain of salt..know they are trying to protect you..and just keep showing them what a responsible person you are.
um...i wouldnt say dont date AT ALL cuz u should enjoy ur childhood/teen years but i'm not saying have sexual relations at all ok? cuz u should really really wait till ur ready but that is sooooooo not tru thats not all guys want. thats horrible that they would say something like that and its really stereotypical of them to say that D:%26lt; thats just kinda effed up if u ask me
BUT they're probly just sayin that so they can have the luxury of being 100% sure that u wont have sex -_-
Dont have sex till ur older, but that doesnt mean u cant date.
Portions of what is described above is good advice.
When you're young it is best to focus on an education rather then boys.
The chances of an education going somewhere is much higher then a intimate relationship between two children.
Sounds like your mom and grandma are a wee bit paranoid. maybe they are speaking from their experience. Just tell them you have better judgment than them.
That is a terrible thing to say, What about your grandpa?? Or your father??
There are tons of great guys out there. Yes there are some creeps too. but to Label every guy like that? That's just wrong.
No, I don't think it's good advice. It's just another stereotype. It's the same as saying to a boy ';Don't date girls, they're all gold-diggers and all they want is your money.';
Spreading generalization and sexism isn't going to help anyone.
i think that's bad advice. It is telling a girl that to date you have to have sex which isn't true. You can casually date and see if you really like someone. I think the best thing to teach is that sex is sacred adn to be careful.
i think a sweeping generalization like that is ridiculous. im 17 and i have been with the same girl for going on 3 years and we still havent had sex once, and im still a virgin. so there is some hope for her =] give her a chance
not all guys are liars and jerks but there certainly are a lot of them and you should keep your eyes open. make sure your with a guy who is with you because he likes you, not because he wants to get in your pants
I'm a guy, and im not exactly looking for sex, i just want somebody who loves me or something.
sex is great, but its what a relationship is about.
find a guy that is your friend, and cares about you that won't hurt you and that you care about.
If you must do something what ever you do, use protection. The last thing you need to do is end up pregnant.
No, this is the truth.
Good for you, you should tell her the truth!
I am a guy and this is for real; we only want sex. TELL HER!
No, I think that's awful dating advice, as it is horribly unrealistic.
if anyone says its not true they are lieing! guys think about sex 24/7 but its not like EVERY guy wants to screw u. Once in a while u will actually find the nice guy. Just be careful u can easily spot the dogs..
MOST guys just want sex. Really, most.
I think it is very good advice. Because it is very true.
Most guys are liars and cheaters.
tht is good advice
bad for guys but good for you
excellent advice
dont give this dating advice.
itll make them do it behind your back and you will never find out.
No. That doesn't sound like good advice to me.
obviously mom and grandma did not follow their own advise or you would not be here
No some guys are like that you just have to be smart on who u date and dont let them take care or you. if you ever ever need any help ill help you just email me or anything
ildsubway@yahoo.com
i think its their way of saying wait till ur 18
Yeah it seems to be that your grandma and mom are MEN HATERS as they say because they got burned alot. Well what my mom says is ';No bodys gonna want the cow if they get the milk for free';. Guys think about sex every 5 seconds. But hey we woman areint all that great either. What I suggest is when you date a guy, never give up sex right away make them wait awhile so that they know, your not the kind of girl that just gives it up for anybody and that they cant just use you. Some woman think if they have sex with a man theyll stick around. Well whats the fun in that. Its better to get to know someone then when your both ready to have sex you know that you like one another and that you made the right decision.
The only female living amungst guys, advice?
so i just recently moved in with my dad and my cousin reguraly stays over for work wo is also a guy and im finding it difficult. How am i ever gonna be able to talk about girl stuff with my dad and like in the shopping if i need feminine hygiene products and other similar items guys dont have to worry about, i buy stuff like that myself with what little money i have but it cant last forever, any advice?The only female living amungst guys, advice?
He is a man of the world, he will know what you are going to need. Men/dads are not as stupid as you think you know, they are aware of all these things, some just chose to avoid the subject as it makes them uncomfortable.
Dad are not good at girl talk but give him a try he may surprise you, there are more men in touch with their feminine side these days even if they don't show it.The only female living amungst guys, advice?
just tell your dad you need them. He knows women have periods. However i dont see him going up to the shop to buy them for you. As they come in all shape /sizes/colours . Tell him what the money is for and he will give it to you straight away. Take my word for it, just tell him.
hey......u shud jus atlk to your dad......tell him that u need money 4 ';personal exp'; he will no....no matter wat we think....guys do have a bit of a brian!!!!
Stand up for your girly rights. If you need supplies, put them on the shopping list. Your dad may be male, but trust me, he knows that girls have periods. As for the talks, you can try, but he might not be very good at it. Maybe a female relative or the mom of a friend can help you through it.
it's hard to do but you need time to talk to you're dad i know family is family but u should have time with him by you're self you need you're time !!!
try talking to your dad. he might be a lot cooler than you think when it comes to that kind of thing.
Honey he is yoUr father right ?Just ask him remember he was married to ur mother
Any possibility of a part time job, or, in a quiet moment, ask your dad for an allowance so you can buy things that are embarrassing for guys to buy. He'll understand.
If you feel uncomfortable talking to your dad about such things School starts in a few weeks talk to your teacher ect. tell him or her your problem and some one from the school will help you let your dad know I am sure he loves you but it seems maybe he doesn't understand your special needs. Good luck!!!!!
Get a job then you will never have to ask for extra money. And by the way? Work is fun, especially if you get tips.
you should be careful.if they touch you then they must be having something bad in their mind.theycan do anything. for example=sex or rape
He is a man of the world, he will know what you are going to need. Men/dads are not as stupid as you think you know, they are aware of all these things, some just chose to avoid the subject as it makes them uncomfortable.
Dad are not good at girl talk but give him a try he may surprise you, there are more men in touch with their feminine side these days even if they don't show it.The only female living amungst guys, advice?
just tell your dad you need them. He knows women have periods. However i dont see him going up to the shop to buy them for you. As they come in all shape /sizes/colours . Tell him what the money is for and he will give it to you straight away. Take my word for it, just tell him.
hey......u shud jus atlk to your dad......tell him that u need money 4 ';personal exp'; he will no....no matter wat we think....guys do have a bit of a brian!!!!
Stand up for your girly rights. If you need supplies, put them on the shopping list. Your dad may be male, but trust me, he knows that girls have periods. As for the talks, you can try, but he might not be very good at it. Maybe a female relative or the mom of a friend can help you through it.
it's hard to do but you need time to talk to you're dad i know family is family but u should have time with him by you're self you need you're time !!!
try talking to your dad. he might be a lot cooler than you think when it comes to that kind of thing.
Honey he is yoUr father right ?Just ask him remember he was married to ur mother
Any possibility of a part time job, or, in a quiet moment, ask your dad for an allowance so you can buy things that are embarrassing for guys to buy. He'll understand.
If you feel uncomfortable talking to your dad about such things School starts in a few weeks talk to your teacher ect. tell him or her your problem and some one from the school will help you let your dad know I am sure he loves you but it seems maybe he doesn't understand your special needs. Good luck!!!!!
Get a job then you will never have to ask for extra money. And by the way? Work is fun, especially if you get tips.
you should be careful.if they touch you then they must be having something bad in their mind.theycan do anything. for example=sex or rape
Any opinions or advice on how to catch a guys attn ?
im 18 bi single male and i need a bf of gf lol so how do i catch a guys attn w/o scaring him or being too weird or slutty ?Any opinions or advice on how to catch a guys attn ?
talk 2 me hotti Any opinions or advice on how to catch a guys attn ?
Eye contact. Let him catch you looking at him before you look away all coy and shy, then quickly look back to see if he's still looking at you and you smile then lower your head. Works like a charm.
Just ask him if he wants to **** your ***!!
talk 2 me hotti Any opinions or advice on how to catch a guys attn ?
Eye contact. Let him catch you looking at him before you look away all coy and shy, then quickly look back to see if he's still looking at you and you smile then lower your head. Works like a charm.
Just ask him if he wants to **** your ***!!
Ok, some girls or guys advice on lip color?
http://s700.photobucket.com/albums/ww2/g鈥?/a> there is a picture of myself and i wud like to know what color of lip gloss or lip stick i shud wear, thank u very much :), oh by the way im 15 and in high school so nothing too dramaticOk, some girls or guys advice on lip color?
You are really pretty! I am so jealous! :D
You should wear light pink. (But I personally love your natural lip color. I think you should just get clear shiny lip gloss to accentuate your natural lip color.)
Your welcome.
I am 14 years old and in 8th grade. (: (And I use the natural shiny lip gloss.
You look so Irish. I'm jealous! :DOk, some girls or guys advice on lip color?
here is my advice, and don't blame me if it isnt great, i am a boy u know...lol. I would suggest going with a light pink or a light red. Since you don't want anything dramatic, that would probably be what i would stick with. I wouldn't use black, unless ur going goth. I hope you don't though. just doesn't seem your...style. That or maybe a very light blue.
^%26gt;%26lt;^ Tvv!I!ght ^%26gt;%26lt;^
Hmm okay im recommending a brand because i know one thats perfect
Its sweet jelly, jelly baby is a light pink shimmer
it tastes AMAZING
its not sticky at all (great kissing gloss =P)
and its got a light shimmer
and its relatively cheap
http://www.rimmellondon.com/US/PRODUCTS/鈥?/a>
No stick, either the following:
Colors- A red if daring or a dark, nude pink.
Type of color- Lip gloss, shimmer, or SPF moisturizing lipstick or a lip balm.
i would go with pink and red tones, like maybe Beauty rush lip gloss or Elf from target! if you want actual names let me know!
coral looks good on everyone.. and that's a fact.
pinks would look good on u!eye makeup pictures
You are really pretty! I am so jealous! :D
You should wear light pink. (But I personally love your natural lip color. I think you should just get clear shiny lip gloss to accentuate your natural lip color.)
Your welcome.
I am 14 years old and in 8th grade. (: (And I use the natural shiny lip gloss.
You look so Irish. I'm jealous! :DOk, some girls or guys advice on lip color?
here is my advice, and don't blame me if it isnt great, i am a boy u know...lol. I would suggest going with a light pink or a light red. Since you don't want anything dramatic, that would probably be what i would stick with. I wouldn't use black, unless ur going goth. I hope you don't though. just doesn't seem your...style. That or maybe a very light blue.
^%26gt;%26lt;^ Tvv!I!ght ^%26gt;%26lt;^
Hmm okay im recommending a brand because i know one thats perfect
Its sweet jelly, jelly baby is a light pink shimmer
it tastes AMAZING
its not sticky at all (great kissing gloss =P)
and its got a light shimmer
and its relatively cheap
http://www.rimmellondon.com/US/PRODUCTS/鈥?/a>
No stick, either the following:
Colors- A red if daring or a dark, nude pink.
Type of color- Lip gloss, shimmer, or SPF moisturizing lipstick or a lip balm.
i would go with pink and red tones, like maybe Beauty rush lip gloss or Elf from target! if you want actual names let me know!
coral looks good on everyone.. and that's a fact.
pinks would look good on u!
Advice on how to pick up girls? Guys and girls may answer?
if im walking down the street or at a social event and i see a girl that catches my eye, wut should I say. Ladies what are some good conversation starters men have asked you. and all that guys that get girls how do you usually kick off a convo?Advice on how to pick up girls? Guys and girls may answer?
Personally, I can't stand pickup lines. To even have a chance at working, they need to be creative, funny, in good taste, and original. So many of us have heard them all that it's just really a turn off. I would suggest you just go up and start a conversation. Maybe notice something she is interested in, or comment on whatever it is she's doing when you see her. Most times that will initiate a conversation, and then you can introduce yourself.
Most girls just like when a guy notices them.Advice on how to pick up girls? Guys and girls may answer?
Just a simple hello and say something like ';How r u doing today.'; A guy once told me ';You smell great, what r u wearing';, weird, funny, but it worked.
Listen closely Mortal for Dragonslayer45 rarely reveals his mating secrets!
Once I scowered the lands of neverthere searching for the sowrd of Vildoc and fighting the gorgon mage Imbeldorn I soon met a fair elven maiden, after I saved her lands I was able to court her on my battle elephant Hegore, I then left to search of new lands and the secrets they hold as to discover the plot of the BattleMage Orgrack!
So save her lands have a battle elephant and you will be getting elven maidens like you would not belive
Any girl loves any kind of attention, so if you even just look at her, she will feel flattered. Much less if you walk up to her and compliment her or say something cheesy like ';Excuse ma'am, but I lost my number. Can I have yours?'; Then she'll feel like a princess. Just be sure to not do that to every pretty girl you see, make sure she's not walking around with her boyfriend/fiance/whatever, and try to go for the girls that are alone, or are with their friends. No girls that are with parents, relatives, etc.
Just google cheesy pick-up lines. As stupid as they sound, the girl will love that your giving her attention, they won't care what you say, just as long as it's nice.
Good luck! :)
Personally, I can't stand pickup lines. To even have a chance at working, they need to be creative, funny, in good taste, and original. So many of us have heard them all that it's just really a turn off. I would suggest you just go up and start a conversation. Maybe notice something she is interested in, or comment on whatever it is she's doing when you see her. Most times that will initiate a conversation, and then you can introduce yourself.
Most girls just like when a guy notices them.Advice on how to pick up girls? Guys and girls may answer?
Just a simple hello and say something like ';How r u doing today.'; A guy once told me ';You smell great, what r u wearing';, weird, funny, but it worked.
Listen closely Mortal for Dragonslayer45 rarely reveals his mating secrets!
Once I scowered the lands of neverthere searching for the sowrd of Vildoc and fighting the gorgon mage Imbeldorn I soon met a fair elven maiden, after I saved her lands I was able to court her on my battle elephant Hegore, I then left to search of new lands and the secrets they hold as to discover the plot of the BattleMage Orgrack!
So save her lands have a battle elephant and you will be getting elven maidens like you would not belive
Any girl loves any kind of attention, so if you even just look at her, she will feel flattered. Much less if you walk up to her and compliment her or say something cheesy like ';Excuse ma'am, but I lost my number. Can I have yours?'; Then she'll feel like a princess. Just be sure to not do that to every pretty girl you see, make sure she's not walking around with her boyfriend/fiance/whatever, and try to go for the girls that are alone, or are with their friends. No girls that are with parents, relatives, etc.
Just google cheesy pick-up lines. As stupid as they sound, the girl will love that your giving her attention, they won't care what you say, just as long as it's nice.
Good luck! :)
Makeover advice (girls and guys advice please)
Im not a nerd but not popular people love my clothes and stuff but I need a change I have shoulder length hair and im 13 so i wanna stay young im growing tired of my selfMakeover advice (girls and guys advice please)
A little change that can look like a big change is getting bangs if you don't have any already. They can change ones look dramatically. And since you're 13 i can't really say anything else, maybe..try..starting a new trend at your school? Glases without lenses are starting to happen.Makeover advice (girls and guys advice please)
A slightly punkish/emo look seems to be pretty popular now. If you're not actually emo then don't overdo it, but a little bit of eyeliner, a unique-but-not-weird hairstyle is pretty good along with a ';preppy rocker chick'; wardrobe.
oh and if you wear glasses, switch to contacts.
check out these stores:
http://www.urbanoutfitters.com/urban/cat鈥?/a>
http://www.forever21.com/
http://www.wetseal.com/home.jsp
http://www.pinkice.com/
http://www.fredflare.com/customer/backto鈥?/a>
just go through and pick out things you normally wouldnt wear but that catch your eye start putting outfits together express youself and have fun
hair ideas:
http://www.hair-styles.org/medium-length鈥?/a>
http://images.google.com/imgres?imgurl=h鈥?/a>
http://www.hairstylestalk.com/images/nic鈥?/a>
makeup:
http://ww1.prweb.com/prfiles/2007/05/20/鈥?/a>
http://www.facemaker.ca/smokyeyemakeupim鈥?/a>
It Would Help Alot If You Explain Yourself More =]
But Uhh,
Get Some Highlights.
New Wardrobe.
Perhaps A New Haircut?
Wear Stuff You Wouldnt Wear
When You Explain Your Self I Will Be More Then Happy 2 Help
=]
Just Dont Change Yourself!
i would go with neutral makeup, browns, tans, and maybe some greys. some eyeliner, brown eyeliner. maybe just a tad bit of black. peachy colored lipgloss, to frosty pink. nice %26amp; cute =)
let your hair grow longer.
eye liner?
yes!
straighten hair.
use cute head bands.
cute girly stuff.
lip gloss %26lt;3
answer mine?
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?鈥?/a>
please.
A little change that can look like a big change is getting bangs if you don't have any already. They can change ones look dramatically. And since you're 13 i can't really say anything else, maybe..try..starting a new trend at your school? Glases without lenses are starting to happen.Makeover advice (girls and guys advice please)
A slightly punkish/emo look seems to be pretty popular now. If you're not actually emo then don't overdo it, but a little bit of eyeliner, a unique-but-not-weird hairstyle is pretty good along with a ';preppy rocker chick'; wardrobe.
oh and if you wear glasses, switch to contacts.
check out these stores:
http://www.urbanoutfitters.com/urban/cat鈥?/a>
http://www.forever21.com/
http://www.wetseal.com/home.jsp
http://www.pinkice.com/
http://www.fredflare.com/customer/backto鈥?/a>
just go through and pick out things you normally wouldnt wear but that catch your eye start putting outfits together express youself and have fun
hair ideas:
http://www.hair-styles.org/medium-length鈥?/a>
http://images.google.com/imgres?imgurl=h鈥?/a>
http://www.hairstylestalk.com/images/nic鈥?/a>
makeup:
http://ww1.prweb.com/prfiles/2007/05/20/鈥?/a>
http://www.facemaker.ca/smokyeyemakeupim鈥?/a>
It Would Help Alot If You Explain Yourself More =]
But Uhh,
Get Some Highlights.
New Wardrobe.
Perhaps A New Haircut?
Wear Stuff You Wouldnt Wear
When You Explain Your Self I Will Be More Then Happy 2 Help
=]
Just Dont Change Yourself!
i would go with neutral makeup, browns, tans, and maybe some greys. some eyeliner, brown eyeliner. maybe just a tad bit of black. peachy colored lipgloss, to frosty pink. nice %26amp; cute =)
let your hair grow longer.
eye liner?
yes!
straighten hair.
use cute head bands.
cute girly stuff.
lip gloss %26lt;3
answer mine?
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?鈥?/a>
please.
Girls or guys! advice on getting a guy thats?
how do you get with a guy thats a couple grades older?!
he's not like TOO COOL but he is older by a couple grades and i dont want him to think im some immature girl. i want him to like me and stuff but i dont know what kinds of things to do to get him to realize i can be chill and fun and stuff.
guys or girls what do u suggest?Girls or guys! advice on getting a guy thats?
Unfortunately you can't MAKE someone like you or want you...all you can do is be yourself and hope that he likes you for who you are. If you're not an immature girl then you won't come across as an immature girl, right? Be yourself, and if he doesn't like you as you are, then he's not the right guy for you anyways.Girls or guys! advice on getting a guy thats?
You attract his attention by behaving like you're mature and relaxed and confident. Nothing artificial - he'll see right through that.
Nothing says self-assured like introducing yourself and striking up a conversation. AND nothing says ';Lady'; like being gracious and polite if he turns out to be a jerk and is rude to you.
well... it's actually more natural for a guy to date a girl younger than him. I don't know exactly what grades you are in, but you'll have to bear in mind that he'll graduate before you, go to college, and that will likely change a lot of your relationship. If he's close to graduating, he might be a little objected to dating someone who isn't in his same grade simply because he won't see them.
For the time being, don't be afraid to go after him, but don't stalk him. Give him the occasional opportunity to talk to you, go after the opportunities to make him pursue you. He might have a bit too much pride to date someone who is pursuing him... he probably prefers it the other way around.
do not think things so difficult,just take it easy
really talk to him. after a couple weeks just ask him to goto the movies or sumthin like tht. if he says yah then tht meens @ least he thinks ur pretty. if he says no. heyy, his loss rite?
he's not like TOO COOL but he is older by a couple grades and i dont want him to think im some immature girl. i want him to like me and stuff but i dont know what kinds of things to do to get him to realize i can be chill and fun and stuff.
guys or girls what do u suggest?Girls or guys! advice on getting a guy thats?
Unfortunately you can't MAKE someone like you or want you...all you can do is be yourself and hope that he likes you for who you are. If you're not an immature girl then you won't come across as an immature girl, right? Be yourself, and if he doesn't like you as you are, then he's not the right guy for you anyways.Girls or guys! advice on getting a guy thats?
You attract his attention by behaving like you're mature and relaxed and confident. Nothing artificial - he'll see right through that.
Nothing says self-assured like introducing yourself and striking up a conversation. AND nothing says ';Lady'; like being gracious and polite if he turns out to be a jerk and is rude to you.
well... it's actually more natural for a guy to date a girl younger than him. I don't know exactly what grades you are in, but you'll have to bear in mind that he'll graduate before you, go to college, and that will likely change a lot of your relationship. If he's close to graduating, he might be a little objected to dating someone who isn't in his same grade simply because he won't see them.
For the time being, don't be afraid to go after him, but don't stalk him. Give him the occasional opportunity to talk to you, go after the opportunities to make him pursue you. He might have a bit too much pride to date someone who is pursuing him... he probably prefers it the other way around.
do not think things so difficult,just take it easy
really talk to him. after a couple weeks just ask him to goto the movies or sumthin like tht. if he says yah then tht meens @ least he thinks ur pretty. if he says no. heyy, his loss rite?
GUYS!! ADVICE NEEDED? (10 points for best answer)?
Hey guys! I am currently in the process of writing a novel, and I need to know what you would say to a girl as you're giving her a promise ring. 10 points for the best answer, and thank you in advance!GUYS!! ADVICE NEEDED? (10 points for best answer)?
look into her eyes and tell her you loved her since the frist time you layed your eyes on her and you want to spend the rest of your life with her though the good times and even though the bad times .GUYS!! ADVICE NEEDED? (10 points for best answer)?
now open them for me
keep this in memory of me. i 4-ever hold ur heart
look into her eyes and tell her you loved her since the frist time you layed your eyes on her and you want to spend the rest of your life with her though the good times and even though the bad times .GUYS!! ADVICE NEEDED? (10 points for best answer)?
now open them for me
keep this in memory of me. i 4-ever hold ur heart
Relationship advice for guys?
I have been dateing this girl for almost a year and it is both of our first relationship but we are still in the hugging stage. Im not sure what steps i should be taking or how to go about taking them. Can someone please help me?Relationship advice for guys?
Talk to HER!Relationship advice for guys?
just look into her eyes for a long time look at her reaction...
if she cant stop smiling just move your head a little by little .. and see if you can land one....
that was my mistake i was to scared...
Talk to HER!Relationship advice for guys?
just look into her eyes for a long time look at her reaction...
if she cant stop smiling just move your head a little by little .. and see if you can land one....
that was my mistake i was to scared...
I need a guys advice-or anyones for that matter?
I like this guy. He has other friends that are girls, and he hangs out with them way more than he hangs out with me, but I talk to him online more. He has even hugged them both-and me never, is he intimidated by my size? I am kind of heavyset, and he is about 2 inches shorter and immature about that-I am not. I think he is afraid to be seen in public if he does like me back. I am not going to tell him I like him, yeah that may be dumb or whatever to you-but I can't. I told him once, and he got the point and said he never thought of me that way, but I have a feeling he was lying that day. He always stalls his answers. He never invites me out, only the other girls. He hugged the other ones not me. I think I should be in their position along with them. We talk like SO MUCH! More than the other girls, thought he may hang with them a bit more. But we have a connection, even if it is friends-Why do you think he treats them like REAL friends w/hugging etc, and not me like that?I need a guys advice-or anyones for that matter?
By your own admission, you state that you're some what heavy set. He doesn't want to admit that he has feelings for you to others because they may make fun of him because of your size. It sounds as though he may never get over you being heavy and him being short. You can't make him express his feelings for you to others or to you. To keep yourself from being hurt you need to let this one go. If he can't admit to others that he likes you then what chance do you have with having a nice loving relationship? He's not going to take you out around his friends or be seen with you where others may see you. Without you realizing it and he's more than likely isn't doing it on purpose but he's hurting you. Step out of the relationship and view it from the outside, think of it this way if a friend came to you with your situtation what would you tell that person to do? He can talk to you online all day long but he talks to the other girls in public and invites them out because he feels that make him look better. You're the online pal because no one can see you. If you want to make a move then you either need to ignore him or just come out and have a heart to heart talk with him about how what he's doing makes you feel. If he gets nasty about it then you know he has not going to be more than just a online pal to you. Trust me, he doesn't want to date you like you'd like. Let him go before you end up with seriously hurt feelings.I need a guys advice-or anyones for that matter?
Sorry sweetie but I think you know why. He probably finds them more attractive than you and his immaturity is getting in the way. He obviously has more in common with you but at his age and maturity level that won't be enough.
If he is feeling that way, then you should move on and look for a guy who is truly into you.
Well im a girl...but i know for a fact...he likes you..he just dosen't want to admit it...tell him that yuor feelign left out when you all hang out...he seems sweet give him a chance or i could be wronge because usually guys are pretty straight forward but still tell him that you like him as a friend and are feeling a bit left out
He likes you as a friend, but not a girlfriend...he actually told you that but you are ignoring the message.
i think that if he is so immature about that than he isnt worth it conforont him about thiseye makeup pictures
By your own admission, you state that you're some what heavy set. He doesn't want to admit that he has feelings for you to others because they may make fun of him because of your size. It sounds as though he may never get over you being heavy and him being short. You can't make him express his feelings for you to others or to you. To keep yourself from being hurt you need to let this one go. If he can't admit to others that he likes you then what chance do you have with having a nice loving relationship? He's not going to take you out around his friends or be seen with you where others may see you. Without you realizing it and he's more than likely isn't doing it on purpose but he's hurting you. Step out of the relationship and view it from the outside, think of it this way if a friend came to you with your situtation what would you tell that person to do? He can talk to you online all day long but he talks to the other girls in public and invites them out because he feels that make him look better. You're the online pal because no one can see you. If you want to make a move then you either need to ignore him or just come out and have a heart to heart talk with him about how what he's doing makes you feel. If he gets nasty about it then you know he has not going to be more than just a online pal to you. Trust me, he doesn't want to date you like you'd like. Let him go before you end up with seriously hurt feelings.I need a guys advice-or anyones for that matter?
Sorry sweetie but I think you know why. He probably finds them more attractive than you and his immaturity is getting in the way. He obviously has more in common with you but at his age and maturity level that won't be enough.
If he is feeling that way, then you should move on and look for a guy who is truly into you.
Well im a girl...but i know for a fact...he likes you..he just dosen't want to admit it...tell him that yuor feelign left out when you all hang out...he seems sweet give him a chance or i could be wronge because usually guys are pretty straight forward but still tell him that you like him as a friend and are feeling a bit left out
He likes you as a friend, but not a girlfriend...he actually told you that but you are ignoring the message.
i think that if he is so immature about that than he isnt worth it conforont him about this
I need a guys advice-girls if you want to, HELP!?
I added my crush on MSN and i don't know what to talk to him about, and whenever i ask him a question he answer but doesn't ask me, for example:
Me- How are you?
Him- Good
He doesn't start the conversation- does this mean he doesn't like me?I need a guys advice-girls if you want to, HELP!?
No it doesn't mean he doesn't like you, he probably is just too lazy or too self involved Lol Try asking him about something he's interested in e.g. football,music,art etc. you're sure to get him talking then :)I need a guys advice-girls if you want to, HELP!?
may be he doesn't know what to ask?!
Me- How are you?
Him- Good
He doesn't start the conversation- does this mean he doesn't like me?I need a guys advice-girls if you want to, HELP!?
No it doesn't mean he doesn't like you, he probably is just too lazy or too self involved Lol Try asking him about something he's interested in e.g. football,music,art etc. you're sure to get him talking then :)I need a guys advice-girls if you want to, HELP!?
may be he doesn't know what to ask?!
Do guys ask their guy friends for dating advice?
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about girls you should go out with or not?Do guys ask their guy friends for dating advice?
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Okay guys, advice on tacky sweater please?
i'm going to a party tomorrow night and everyone is suppose to wear a ugly sweater. i love sweater and have lots of them, but none that are tacky. does anyone have any ideas how i can make any of my sweaters look tacky without ruining them? i do want to somewhat match also. i will be wearing jeans and pointed hooker boots. thanks guys for any advice and stay warm!Okay guys, advice on tacky sweater please?
Grab some safety pins and pin pompoms all over a sweater.Okay guys, advice on tacky sweater please?
is this suppos eto be directed to guys? just wondering
well i dont know what a tacky sweater looks like...
a christmas sweater?
Wear it inside out. Hooker boots? Interesting.
put ugly pins all over it!!! go to the thrift store and load up.. or possibly buy a 5 dollar cat lady sweater there, save your nice sweaters for a nice sweater party.. haha
Grab some safety pins and pin pompoms all over a sweater.Okay guys, advice on tacky sweater please?
is this suppos eto be directed to guys? just wondering
well i dont know what a tacky sweater looks like...
a christmas sweater?
Wear it inside out. Hooker boots? Interesting.
put ugly pins all over it!!! go to the thrift store and load up.. or possibly buy a 5 dollar cat lady sweater there, save your nice sweaters for a nice sweater party.. haha
Do you guys have any advice on how to NOT be tired? I know sleeping 8 hrs + helps but what else can I do?
Dehydration and under eating are common causes of fatigue. Most people don't drink enough water.
A women's energy multivitamin every day might perhaps help. They contain extra B vitamins for energy.Do you guys have any advice on how to NOT be tired? I know sleeping 8 hrs + helps but what else can I do?
I know where your coming from; I always look tired even if I'm not. I know that even if I get a good nights sleep I still can feel sluggish and it just annoys the heck out of me. About a month ago I started taking a B Complex vitamins essentially having all the b vitamins in it and honestly, a few days ago I finally noticed I was feeling less tired and feeling better.
Give it a try and give it at least a month to help.Do you guys have any advice on how to NOT be tired? I know sleeping 8 hrs + helps but what else can I do?
hmmm.. i get about the same sleep time too but i don't tend to look tired, Try taking some multi-vitamins or something, or something thats not bad for you like no-doze, anything that will help wake you up, coffee!, or tea, normal tea can work well :)
Hope this helps, good luck
Splash some cool water on your face when you get out of the shower, or use that morning burst clean and clear clenser. If your eyes are dark and puffy there is creams and make up for that. Keep hydrated throughout the day and eat a well balanced diet. The key to not looking tired is to look fresh :)
Take five minutes out of the busiest part of your day to go to a giet place, and sit and concentrate on breathing. Relaxation is just as important as sleep and will have a marked affect on your appearance. A happy camper looks happy.
try taking vitamins, get tested for iron defficency and maybe for an underactive or overactive thyroid.
you should probably get to the doctors just incase.
A women's energy multivitamin every day might perhaps help. They contain extra B vitamins for energy.Do you guys have any advice on how to NOT be tired? I know sleeping 8 hrs + helps but what else can I do?
I know where your coming from; I always look tired even if I'm not. I know that even if I get a good nights sleep I still can feel sluggish and it just annoys the heck out of me. About a month ago I started taking a B Complex vitamins essentially having all the b vitamins in it and honestly, a few days ago I finally noticed I was feeling less tired and feeling better.
Give it a try and give it at least a month to help.Do you guys have any advice on how to NOT be tired? I know sleeping 8 hrs + helps but what else can I do?
hmmm.. i get about the same sleep time too but i don't tend to look tired, Try taking some multi-vitamins or something, or something thats not bad for you like no-doze, anything that will help wake you up, coffee!, or tea, normal tea can work well :)
Hope this helps, good luck
Splash some cool water on your face when you get out of the shower, or use that morning burst clean and clear clenser. If your eyes are dark and puffy there is creams and make up for that. Keep hydrated throughout the day and eat a well balanced diet. The key to not looking tired is to look fresh :)
Take five minutes out of the busiest part of your day to go to a giet place, and sit and concentrate on breathing. Relaxation is just as important as sleep and will have a marked affect on your appearance. A happy camper looks happy.
try taking vitamins, get tested for iron defficency and maybe for an underactive or overactive thyroid.
you should probably get to the doctors just incase.
Have you got any advice for shy guys?
see, im a little low on confidence on asking girls out, i don't know why, any advice?Have you got any advice for shy guys?
Overcoming your shyness can be a HUGE sticking point for a lot of guys.
This article is probably the best stuff I've found on the subject... I read it recently and got a lot out of it:
http://hubpages.com/hub/5-Empowering-Dating-Tips-For-Shy-GuysHave you got any advice for shy guys?
I'm pretty shy, and used to be awful at talking to girls I liked, but fine talking to them as friends. My tactic is to just forget I like them and just talk to them as a friend. Ended up having a nearly 15min conversation with this girl I really like a few weeks ago, and other than a couple of slips, got on really well. Oddly, I tend to have a problem with eye contact, and will often look past people when talking to them, or even away from them, yet have no trouble with her. She's not the most outgoing person herself either, and other than her close friends doesn't talk to that many people (although I think a lot of boys like her as she's really pretty, so a lot seem to try and talk to her.
you gotta find out why it is your being shy, whats making you want to hide yourself? don't say you don't know just have a thinking session and just really THINK... is it:
fear of humiliation? were you bullied and worry about the bigger guys? do you fear rejection? do you have physical insecurities? worry about people watching you? worry about being taken advantage of?
get back to me, i'll try to help (=
One of the most noticable things about a person is there confidence..
If you're having trouble asking a girl out, how about getting a friend to quiz her on what they think of you before moving in? Some girls like the quieter type, so just try your luck!
Good luck :)
Confidence is something you can act, if you know a girl likes you..then why be shy, just try talking to her. Just think of her as being friend at first, but try to be yourself just worry less.
Girls love confidence so it doesn't matter if you aren't, just act it. Even if your feeling like an idiot because its so unlike you, the chances are girls will be much more attracted to you :)
Just use ur funny side to hide how shy you are. Take an interest in her hobbies and stuff. Ask her if she is goin to a concert (randomly) and if she says no then say would you like to come with?
Overcoming your shyness can be a HUGE sticking point for a lot of guys.
This article is probably the best stuff I've found on the subject... I read it recently and got a lot out of it:
http://hubpages.com/hub/5-Empowering-Dating-Tips-For-Shy-GuysHave you got any advice for shy guys?
I'm pretty shy, and used to be awful at talking to girls I liked, but fine talking to them as friends. My tactic is to just forget I like them and just talk to them as a friend. Ended up having a nearly 15min conversation with this girl I really like a few weeks ago, and other than a couple of slips, got on really well. Oddly, I tend to have a problem with eye contact, and will often look past people when talking to them, or even away from them, yet have no trouble with her. She's not the most outgoing person herself either, and other than her close friends doesn't talk to that many people (although I think a lot of boys like her as she's really pretty, so a lot seem to try and talk to her.
you gotta find out why it is your being shy, whats making you want to hide yourself? don't say you don't know just have a thinking session and just really THINK... is it:
fear of humiliation? were you bullied and worry about the bigger guys? do you fear rejection? do you have physical insecurities? worry about people watching you? worry about being taken advantage of?
get back to me, i'll try to help (=
One of the most noticable things about a person is there confidence..
If you're having trouble asking a girl out, how about getting a friend to quiz her on what they think of you before moving in? Some girls like the quieter type, so just try your luck!
Good luck :)
Confidence is something you can act, if you know a girl likes you..then why be shy, just try talking to her. Just think of her as being friend at first, but try to be yourself just worry less.
Girls love confidence so it doesn't matter if you aren't, just act it. Even if your feeling like an idiot because its so unlike you, the chances are girls will be much more attracted to you :)
Just use ur funny side to hide how shy you are. Take an interest in her hobbies and stuff. Ask her if she is goin to a concert (randomly) and if she says no then say would you like to come with?
Advice: What looks better on guys, Hooded leather jackets or non-hooded leather jackets?
Thank you for the adviceAdvice: What looks better on guys, Hooded leather jackets or non-hooded leather jackets?
Non-hooded, with maybe a collar...
In my opinion dudes with popped collars win my heart....
Just kidding. xDAdvice: What looks better on guys, Hooded leather jackets or non-hooded leather jackets?
I've never heard of a hooded leather jacket; is the hood also leather? That's really weird and seems ugly in my head.
Non-hooded all the way.
non-hooded obv.. (:
x
depends on the style of the boy if u are indie ish then go for hooded if nt then no hood:)eye makeup pictures
Non-hooded, with maybe a collar...
In my opinion dudes with popped collars win my heart....
Just kidding. xDAdvice: What looks better on guys, Hooded leather jackets or non-hooded leather jackets?
I've never heard of a hooded leather jacket; is the hood also leather? That's really weird and seems ugly in my head.
Non-hooded all the way.
non-hooded obv.. (:
x
depends on the style of the boy if u are indie ish then go for hooded if nt then no hood:)
Advice: What looks better on guys, Hooded leather jackets or non-hooded leather jackets?
Thank you for the adviceAdvice: What looks better on guys, Hooded leather jackets or non-hooded leather jackets?
Non-hooded, with maybe a collar...
In my opinion dudes with popped collars win my heart....
Just kidding. xDAdvice: What looks better on guys, Hooded leather jackets or non-hooded leather jackets?
I've never heard of a hooded leather jacket; is the hood also leather? That's really weird and seems ugly in my head.
Non-hooded all the way.
non-hooded obv.. (:
x
depends on the style of the boy if u are indie ish then go for hooded if nt then no hood:)
Non-hooded, with maybe a collar...
In my opinion dudes with popped collars win my heart....
Just kidding. xDAdvice: What looks better on guys, Hooded leather jackets or non-hooded leather jackets?
I've never heard of a hooded leather jacket; is the hood also leather? That's really weird and seems ugly in my head.
Non-hooded all the way.
non-hooded obv.. (:
x
depends on the style of the boy if u are indie ish then go for hooded if nt then no hood:)
Guys advice here please, i have been trying to get my wife pregenant?
she won't go to the dr. cause she thinks she is fine, does anyone know how to inprove my sperm count without going to the dr. and is there any guys out there that r depressed cause they want to a child with the woman they love, please any advice will so greatly appericatedGuys advice here please, i have been trying to get my wife pregenant?
Original Article:http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/inferti鈥?/a>
Infertility
Introduction
You and your partner have tried for months, perhaps for even more than a year. But despite sexual intercourse without birth control, you've been unable to conceive a child.
If you've been trying to conceive for more than a year, there's a good chance that something may be interfering with your efforts to have a child. Infertility, also known as subfertility, is the inability to conceive a child within one year. Infertility may be due to a single cause in either you or your partner, or a combination of factors that may prevent a pregnancy from occurring or continuing.
Infertility differs from sterility. Being sterile means you're unable to conceive a child. With sterility, you or your partner has a physical problem that precludes the ability to conceive. A diagnosis of infertility simply means that becoming pregnant may be a challenge rather than an impossibility.
Signs and symptoms
Most men with fertility problems have no signs or symptoms. Some men with hormonal problems may note a change in their voice or pattern of hair growth, enlargement of their breasts, or difficulty with sexual function. Infertility in women may be signaled by irregular menstrual periods or associated with conditions that cause pain during menstruation or intercourse.
Causes
The human reproductive process is complex. To accomplish a pregnancy, the intricate processes of ovulation and fertilization need to work just right. For many couples attempting pregnancy, something goes wrong in one or both of these complex processes and causes infertility. Because of the intricate series of events required to begin a pregnancy, many factors may cause a delay in starting your family.
Every month the pituitary gland in a woman's brain sends a signal to her ovaries to prepare an egg for ovulation. The pituitary hormones 鈥?follicle-stimulating hormone (FSH) and luteinizing hormone (LH) 鈥?are involved in stimulating the ovaries to bring an egg to ovulation. A large boost in LH carries a message to the ovarian follicle to release its egg (ovulate). A woman is most fertile at the time of ovulation 鈥?around day 14 of her menstrual cycle 鈥?although the exact time of ovulation varies among women due to different lengths of menstrual cycles.
The egg is then captured by a fallopian tube and is viable for about 24 hours, but its best chance of being fertilized is within the first 12 hours following ovulation. For pregnancy to occur, a sperm must unite with the egg in the fallopian tube during this time. Sperm are capable of fertilizing the egg for up to 72 hours and must be present in the fallopian tube at the same time as the egg for conception to occur. If fertilized, the egg moves into the uterus two to four days later. There it attaches to the uterine lining and begins a nine-month process of growth.
In order for a sperm to reach an egg, many factors are involved in the male fertility process. There must be enough sperm, they must be of the right shape and they must move in the right way. There must be enough semen to transport the sperm. The man also needs to be able to have an erection, and must be able to ejaculate the semen and deliver it into the vagina.
The cause or causes of infertility can involve one or both partners. For many couples having problems with fertility, the male partner is either the sole or a contributing cause. Problems with female fertility are common as well, but present less often than those in the male partner. In both men and women, multiple factors can account for difficulty with fertility. Sometimes the problem isn't really one of infertility, but a more general sexual problem such as erectile dysfunction. Other times, the problem may involve an abnormality in the structure of the reproductive hormones or organs. Certain infections and diseases also can affect fertility.
Causes of male infertility
A number of causes exist for male infertility that may result in impaired sperm count or mobility, or impaired ability to fertilize the egg. The most common causes of male infertility include abnormal sperm production or function, impaired delivery of sperm, conditions related to a man's general health and lifestyle, and overexposure to certain environmental elements:
Abnormal sperm production or function. Most cases of male infertility are due to sperm abnormalities, such as:
路Impaired shape and movement of sperm. Sperm must be properly shaped and able to move rapidly and accurately toward the egg for fertilization to occur. If the shape and structure (morphology) of the sperm are abnormal or the movement (motility) is impaired, sperm may not be able to reach the egg.
路Absent sperm production in testicles. Complete failure of the testicles to produce sperm is rare, affecting very few infertile men.
路Low sperm concentration. A normal sperm concentration is greater than or equal to 20 million sperm per milliliter of semen. A count of 10 million or fewer sperm per milliliter of semen indicates low sperm concentration (subfertility). A count of 40 million sperm or higher per milliliter of semen indicates increased fertility.
路Varicocele. A varicocele is a varicose vein in the scrotum that may prevent normal cooling of the testicle and raise testicular temperature, preventing sperm from surviving.
路Undescended testicle (cryptorchidism). This occurs when one or both testicles fail to descend from the abdomen into the scrotum during fetal development. Undescended testicles can cause mild to severely impaired sperm production. Because the testicles are exposed to the higher internal body temperature compared to the temperature in the scrotum, sperm production may be affected.
路Testosterone deficiency (male hypogonadism). Infertility can result from disorders of the testicles themselves, or an abnormality affecting the hypothalamus or pituitary glands in the brain that produce the hormones that control the testicles.
路Klinefelter's syndrome. In this disorder of the sex chromosomes, a man has two X chromosomes and one Y chromosome instead of one X and one Y. This causes abnormal development of the testicles, resulting in low or absent sperm production. Testosterone production also may be lower.
路Infections. Infection may temporarily affect sperm motility. Repeated bouts of sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), such as chlamydia and gonorrhea, are most often associated with male infertility. These infections can cause scarring and block sperm passage. Mycoplasma is an organism that may fasten itself to sperm cells, making them less motile. If mumps, a viral infection usually affecting young children, occurs after puberty, inflammation of the testicles can impair sperm production. Inflammation of the prostate (prostatitis), urethra or epididymis also may alter sperm motility.
In many instances, no cause for reduced sperm production is found. When sperm concentration is less than 5 million per milliliter of semen, genetic causes could be involved. A blood test can reveal whether there are subtle changes in the Y chromosome.
Impaired delivery of sperm. Problems with the delivery of sperm from the penis into the vagina can cause infertility. These may include:
路Sexual issues. Often treatable, problems with sexual intercourse or technique may affect fertility. Difficulties with erection of the penis (erectile dysfunction), premature ejaculation, painful intercourse (dyspareunia), or psychological or relationship problems can contribute to infertility. Use of lubricants such as oils or petroleum jelly can be toxic to sperm and impair fertility.
路Retrograde ejaculation. This occurs when semen enters the bladder during orgasm rather than emerging out through the penis. Various conditions can cause retrograde ejaculation including diabetes, bladder, prostate or urethral surgery, and the use of psychiatric or antihypertensive drugs.
路Blockage of epididymis or ejaculatory ducts. Some men are born with blockage of the part of the testicle that contains sperm (epididymis) or ejaculatory ducts. And some men who seek treatment for infertility lack the tubes that carry sperm (vasa deferentia).
路No semen (ejaculate). The absence of ejaculate may occur in men with spinal cord injuries or diseases. This fluid transports sperm through the penis into the vagina.
路Misplaced urinary opening (hypospadias). A birth defect can cause the urinary (urethral) opening to be abnormally located on the underside of the penis. If not surgically corrected, this condition can prevent sperm from reaching the cervix.
路Anti-sperm antibodies. Antibodies that target sperm and weaken or disable them usually occur after surgical blockage of part of the vas deferens for male sterilization (vasectomy). Presence of these antibodies may complicate the reversal of a vasectomy.
路Cystic fibrosis. Men with cystic fibrosis often have missing or obstructed vasa deferentia.
General health and lifestyle. A man's general health and lifestyle may affect fertility. Some common causes of infertility related to health and lifestyle include:
路Emotional stress. Stress may interfere with certain hormones needed to produce sperm. Your sperm count may be affected if you experience excessive or prolonged emotional stress. A problem with fertility itself can sometimes become long term and discouraging, producing more stress. Infertility can affect social relationships and sexual functioning.
路Malnutrition. Deficiencies in nutrients such as vitamin C, selenium, zinc and folate may contribute to infertility.
路Obesity. Increased body mass may be associated with fertility problems in men.
路Cancer and its treatment. Both radiation and chemotherapy treatment for cancer can impair sperm production, sometimes severely. The closer radiation treatment is to the testicles, the higher the risk of infertility. Removal of one or both testicles due to cancer also may affect male fertility. You may want to consider freezing (cryopreserving) your sperm before cancer treatment to ensure future fertility.
路Alcohol and drugs. Alcohol or drug dependency can be associated with general ill health and reduced fertility. The use of certain drugs also can contribute to infertility. Anabolic steroids, for example, which are taken to stimulate muscle strength and growth, can cause the testicles to shrink and sperm production to decrease.
路Other medical conditions. A severe injury or major surgery can affect male fertility. Certain diseases or conditions, such as diabetes, thyroid disease, HIV/AIDS, Cushing's syndrome, anemia, heart attack, and liver or kidney failure, may be associated with infertility.
路Age. A gradual decline in fertility is common in men older than 35.
Environmental exposure. Overexposure to certain environmental elements such as heat, toxins and chemicals can reduce sperm count either directly by affecting testicular function or indirectly by altering the male hormonal system. Specific causes include:
路Pesticides and other chemicals. Herbicides and insecticides may cause female hormone-like effects in the male body and may be associated with reduced sperm production. Exposure to such chemicals also may contribute to testicular cancer. Men exposed to hydrocarbons, such as ethylbenzene, benzene, toluene, xylen and aromatic solvents used in paint, varnishes, glues, metal degreasers and other products, may be at risk of infertility. Men with high exposure to lead also may be more at risk.
路Testicular exposure to overheating. Frequent use of saunas or hot tubs can elevate your core body temperature. This may impair your sperm production and lower your sperm count.
路Substance abuse. Cocaine or heavy marijuana use may temporarily reduce the number and quality of your sperm.
路Tobacco smoking. Men who smoke may have a lower sperm count than do those who don't smoke.
Causes of female infertility
The most common causes of female infertility include fallopian tube damage or blockage, endometriosis, ovulation disorders, elevated prolactin, polycystic ovary syndrome, early menopause, benign uterine fibroids and pelvic adhesions:
Fallopian tube damage or blockage. This condition usually results from inflammation of the fallopian tube (salpingitis). Chlamydia is the most frequent cause. Tubal inflammation may go unnoticed or cause pain and fever.
Tubal damage with scarring is the major risk factor of a pregnancy in which the fertilized egg is unable to make its way through the fallopian tube to implant in the uterus (ectopic pregnancy). One episode of tubal infection may cause fertility difficulties. The risk of ectopic pregnancy increases with each occurrence of tubal infection.
Endometriosis. Endometriosis occurs when the tissue that makes up the lining of the uterus grows outside of the uterus. This tissue most commonly is implanted on the ovaries or the lining of the abdomen near the uterus, fallopian tubes and ovaries. These implants respond to the hormonal cycle and grow, shed and bleed in sync with the lining of the uterus each month, which can lead to scarring and inflammation. Pelvic pain and infertility are common in women with endometriosis.
Infertility in endometriosis also may be due to:
路Ovarian cysts (endometriomas). Ovarian cysts may indicate advanced endometriosis and often are associated with reduced fertility. Endometriomas can be treated with surgery.
路Scar tissue. Endometriosis may cause rigid webs of scar tissue between the uterus, ovaries and fallopian tubes. This may prevent the transfer of the egg to the fallopian tube.
Ovulation disorders. Some cases of female infertility are caused by ovulation disorders. Disruption in the part of the brain that regulates ovulation (hypothalamic-pituitary axis) can cause deficiencies in luteinizing hormone (LH) and follicle-stimulating hormone (FSH). Even slight irregularities in the hormone system can affect ovulation.
Specific causes of hypothalamic-pituitary disorders include:
路Direct injury to the hypothalamus or pituitary gland
路Pituitary tumors
路Excessive exercise
路Anorexia nervosa
Elevated prolactin (hyperprolactinemia). The hormone prolactin stimulates breast milk production. High levels in women who aren't pregnant or nursing may affect ovulation. An elevation in prolactin levels may also indicate the presence of a pituitary tumor. In addition, some drugs can elevate levels of prolactin. Milk flow not related to pregnancy or nursing (galactorrhea) can be a sign of high prolactin.
Polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS). An increase in androgen hormone production causes PCOS. In women with increased body mass, elevated androgen production may come from stimulation by higher levels of insulin. In lean women, the elevated levels of androgen may be stimulated by a higher ratio of luteinizing hormone (LH). Lack of menstruation (amenorrhea) or infrequent menses (oligomenorrhea) are common symptoms in women with PCOS.
In PCOS, increased androgen production prevents the follicles of the ovaries from producing a mature egg. Small follicles that start to grow but can't mature to ovulation remain within the ovary. A persistent lack of ovulation may lead to mild enlargement of the ovaries.
Without ovulation, the hormone progesterone isn't produced and estrogen levels remain constant. Elevated levels of androgen may cause increased dark or thick hair on the chin, upper lip or lower abdomen as well as acne and oily skin.
Early menopause (premature ovarian failure). Early menopause is the absence of menstruation and the early depletion of ovarian follicles before age 35. Although the cause is often unknown, certain conditions are associated with early menopause, including:
路Autoimmune disease. The body produces antibodies to attack its own tissue, in this case the ovary. This may be associated with hypothyroidism (too little thyroid hormone).
路Radiation or chemotherapy for the treatment of cancer.
路Tobacco smoking.
Benign uterine fibroids.Fibroids are benign tumors in the wall of the uterus and are common in women in their 30s. Occasionally they may cause infertility by interfering with the contour of the uterine cavity, blocking the fallopian tubes.
Pelvic adhesions. Pelvic adhesions are bands of scar tissue that bind organs after pelvic infection, appendicitis, or abdominal or pelvic surgery. They may limit the functioning of the ovaries and fallopian tubes and impair fertility. Scar tissue formation inside the uterine cavity after a surgical procedure may result in a closed uterus and ceased menstruation (Asherman's syndrome). This is most common following surgery to control uterine bleeding after giving birth.
Other causes. A number of other causes can lead to infertility in women:
路Medications. Temporary infertility may occur with the use of certain medications. In most cases, fertility is restored when the medication is stopped.
路Thyroid problems. Disorders of the thyroid gland, either too much thyroid hormone (hyperthyroidism) or too little (hypothyroidism), can interrupt the menstrual cycle and cause infertility.
路Cancer and its treatment. Certain cancers 鈥?particularly female reproductive cancers 鈥?often severely impair female fertility. Both radiation and chemotherapy may affect a woman's ability to reproduce. Chemotherapy may impair reproductive function and fertility more severely in men than in women.
路Other medical conditions. Medical conditions associated with delayed puberty or amenorrhea, such as Cushing's disease, sickle cell disease, HIV/AIDS, kidney disease and diabetes, can affect a woman's fertility.
Risk factors
Many of the risk factors for both male and female infertility are the same. They include:
路Age. Age is the strongest predictor of female fertility. After about age 32, a woman's fertility potential gradually declines. A woman does not renew her oocytes (eggs). Infertility in older women may be due to a higher risk of chromosomal abnormalities that occur in the eggs as they age. Older women are also more likely to have health problems that may interfere with fertility. The risk of miscarriage also increases with a woman's age. A gradual decline in fertility is possible in men older than 35.
路Tobacco smoking. Women who smoke tobacco may reduce their chances of becoming pregnant and the possible benefit of fertility treatment. Miscarriages are more frequent in women who smoke.
路Alcohol. There's no certain level of safe alcohol use during conception or pregnancy.
路Body mass. Extremes in body mass 鈥?either too high (body mass index, or BMI, of greater than 25.0) or too low (BMI of lower than 20.0) 鈥?may affect ovulation and increase the risk of infertility.
路Being overweight. Among American women, infertility often is due to a sedentary lifestyle and being overweight.
路Being underweight. Women at risk include those with eating disorders, such as anorexia nervosa or bulimia, and women following a very low-calorie or restrictive diet. Strict vegetarians also may experience infertility problems due to a lack of important nutrients such as vitamin B-12, zinc, iron and folic acid. Marathon runners, dancers and others who exercise very intensely are more prone to menstrual irregularities and infertility.
When to seek medical advice
In general, don't be concerned about infertility unless you and your partner have been trying regularly to conceive for at least one year. However, if you plan to conceive and you're a woman older than 30 or haven't had a menstrual flow for longer than six months, seek a medical evaluation. If you have a history of irregular or painful menstrual cycles, pelvic pain, endometriosis, pelvic inflammatory disease (PID) or repeated miscarriages, schedule a consultation with your doctor sooner. If you're a man with a low sperm count or a history of testicular, prostate or sexual problems, consider seeking help earlier.
Screening and diagnosis
If you and your partner are unable to achieve conception within a reasonable time and would like to do so, seek help. The woman's gynecologist, the man's urologist or your family doctor can determine whether there's a problem that requires a specialist or clinic that treats infertility problems.
Some infertile couples have more than one cause of their infertility. Thus, your doctor will usually begin a comprehensive infertility examination of both you and your partner.
Before undergoing infertility testing, be aware that a certain amount of commitment is required. Your doctor or clinic will need to determine what your sexual habits are and may make recommendations about how you may need to change those habits. The tests and periods of trial and error may extend over several months.
Evaluation is expensive and in some cases involves operations and uncomfortable procedures, and the expenses may not be reimbursed by many medical plans. Finally, there's no guarantee, even after all testing and counseling, that conception will occur. However, for couples who are eager to have their own child, such an evaluation is best. It may result in a successful pregnancy.
Tests for men
For a man to be fertile, the testicles must produce enough healthy sperm, and the sperm must be ejaculated effectively into the woman's vagina. Tests for male infertility attempt to determine whether any of these processes are impaired.
路General physical examination. This includes examination of your genitals and questions concerning your medical history, illnesses and disabilities, medications and sexual habits.
路Semen analysis. Your doctor may ask for a specimen of ejaculated semen. This is generally obtained by masturbating or by interrupting intercourse and ejaculating your semen into a clean container. Your doctor will provide instructions. Such a specimen may be required more than once. A laboratory analyzes your semen specimen for quantity, color and presence of infections or blood. Detailed analysis of the sperm also is done. The laboratory will determine the number of sperm present and any abnormalities in the shape and movement (motility) of the sperm. Often sperm counts fluctuate from one specimen to the next.
路Hormone testing. A blood test to determine the level of testosterone and other male hormones is common.
Tests for women
For a woman to be fertile, the ovaries must release healthy eggs regularly, and her reproductive tract must allow the eggs and sperm to pass into her fallopian tubes for a possible union. Her reproductive organs must be healthy and functional.
After your doctor asks questions regarding your health history, menstrual cycle and sexual habits, you'll undergo a general physical examination. This includes a regular gynecologic examination. Specific fertility tests may include:
路Confirmation of ovulation. A blood test is sometimes performed to determine the levels of hormones involved in successful ovulation.
路Hysterosalpingography. This test evaluates the condition of your uterus and fallopian tubes. Fluid is injected into your uterus, and an X-ray is taken to determine whether the fluid progresses out of the uterus and into your fallopian tubes and general peritoneal cavity. Blockage or problems often can be located and may be corrected with medication or surgery.
路Laparoscopy. Performed under general anesthesia, this surgical procedure involves inserting a thin viewing device into your abdomen and pelvis to examine your fallopian tubes, ovaries and uterus. A small incision (8 to 10 millimeters) is made beneath your navel, and a needle is inserted into your abdominal cavity. A small amount of gas (usually carbon dioxide) is inserted into the abdomen to create space for entry of the laparoscope 鈥?an illuminated, fiber-optic telescope.
The most common problems identified by laparoscopy are endometriosis and scarring. Your doctor can also detect blockages or irregularities of the fallopian tubes and uterus. Often a blue dye is injected into the cervical canal and through the uterus and fallopian tubes to determine whether they are open. At the end of the procedure, the gas and laparoscope are drawn out and the incision is closed. Laparoscopy generally is done on an outpatient basis.
路Basal body temperature. Although this test was once a standard, basal body temperature charting is used less often today. Charting a woman's body temperature doesn't give as precise time of ovulation as earlier believed.
路Urinary luteinizing hormone (LH) detector kits. A number of at-home kits are available to test your LH level. Although these kits may be helpful, they also can be inaccurate and misleading. Consult your doctor before using one.
路Ovarian reserve testing. Testing may be done to determine the potential effectiveness of the eggs after ovulation. This approach often begins with hormone testing early in a woman's menstrual cycle.
Not everyone needs to undergo all, or even many, of these tests before the cause of infertility is found. Which tests are used and their sequence depend on discussion and agreement between you and your doctor.
Unexplained infertility
In some infertile couples, no specific cause is found (unexplained infertility). Couples receiving the diagnosis of unexplained infertility are more likely to seek multiple health care providers and be influenced by the experiences of family and friends or literature that promises new hope. Although infertility is unexplained, the pregnancy rate for these couples is among the highest.
Complications
Complications of being infertile often involve strong emotions and may trigger negative feelings between you and your partner. These may include:
路Depression
路Guilt
路Anger
路Stress
路Disappointment
路Resentment
路Blame
路Fear of losing partner because of infertility
路Diminished confidence and self-esteem
Treatment
Treatment of infertility depends on the cause, the duration of the problem, the age of the partners and their specific wishes. Some causes of infertility can't be corrected. However, various means of insemination or embryo transfer may be possible so that a woman can still become pregnant.
Nonsurgical fertility treatment falls into two main categories:
路Restoring or bringing about fertility
路Assisted reproductive technology (ART)
Restoring or bringing about fertility
These approaches can involve steps related to the male or to the female, or both.
Sperm survive in the female reproductive tract for up to 72 hours, and an egg can be fertilized for up to 24 hours after ovulation. Increasing the frequency of intercourse increases the chances for conception.
Other approaches that involve the male include:
路Treatment of general sexual problems. Addressing impotence or premature ejaculation can improve fertility. Treatment for these problems often is with medication or behavioral approaches.
路Addressing lack of sperm. When the source of infertility lies in the man's sperm, or lack of it, restoring or initiating fertility is sometimes possible. For example, in some instances, surgical correction of a varicocele will restore fertility. Problems with the testicles, prostate gland, seminal vesicle and urethra also can be treated. When sperm production is impaired because of damage to the sperm-producing areas of the testicle, drug treatment has little benefit. In rare instances when sperm production is impaired because of a pituitary problem, treatment with pituitary hormones called gonadotropins may help. When infection hampers sperm production, both you and your partner will need treatment.
Fertility drugs (ovulation induction)
Fertility drugs are the primary treatment for women who are infertile due to ovulation disorders. These medications regulate or induce ovulation. In general, they exert actions designed to work like natural follicle-stimulating hormone (FSH) and luteinizing hormone (LH). Commonly used fertility drugs include:
路Clomiphene citrate (Clomid, Serophene). This drug is taken orally and stimulates ovulation in women who have PCOS or other ovulatory disorders. It causes the pituitary gland to release more FSH and LH, which stimulate the growth of an ovarian follicle containing an egg.
路Human menopausal gonadotropin, or hMG (Repronex, Pergonal). This injected prescription medication is for women who don't menstruate on their own due to the failure of the pituitary gland to stimulate ovulation. Unlike clomiphene, which stimulates the pituitary gland, hMG and other gonadotropins directly stimulate the ovaries. This drug contains both FSH and LH.
路Follicle-stimulating hormone, or FSH (Gonal-F, Follistim, Bravelle). FSH is essentially hMG without the LH. Like hMG, it works by stimulating the ovaries to mature egg follicles.
路Human chorionic gonadotropin, or hCG (Ovidrel, Pregnyl). Used in combination with clomiphene, hMG and FSH, this drug stimulates the follicle to release its egg (ovulate).
路Gonadotropin-releasing hormone (Gn-RH) analogs. This treatment is for women with irregular ovulatory cycles or who ovulate prematurely 鈥?before the lead follicle is mature enough 鈥?during hMG treatment. Gn-RH analogs deliver constant Gn-RH to the pituitary gland, which alters hormone production, so that a physician can induce follicle growth with FSH.
路Letrozole (Femara). This drug is in a class of medications called aromatase inhibitors, which are approved for treatment of advanced breast cancer. Doctors sometimes prescribe letrozole for women who don't ovulate on their own and who haven't responded to treatment with clomiphene citrate. Letrozole is not approved by the U.S. Food and Drug Administration for inducing ovulation. The drug's manufacturer has warned doctors not to use the drug for fertility purposes because of possible adverse health effects. These adverse effects may include birth defects and miscarriage.
路Metformin (Glucophage). This oral drug is taken to boost ovulation. It's used when insulin resistance is known or suspected.
路Bromocriptine. This medication is for women whose ovulation cycles are irregular due to elevated levels of prolactin, the hormone that stimulates milk production in new mothers. Bromocriptine inhibits prolactin production.
Injectable fertility drugs significantly increase the chance of multiple births. The use of these drugs requires careful monitoring with a combination of blood tests of hormones and ultrasound measurement of ovarian follicle size. Generally, the greater the number of fetuses, the higher the risk of premature labor. Babies born prematurely are at increased risk of health and developmental problems. The risk is greater for triplets than it is for twins or single pregnancies.
The risk of multiple pregnancies can be reduced. If a woman requires an hCG injection to trigger ovulation, and ultrasound exams show that too many follicles have developed, she and her doctor can decide to withhold the hCG injection. For many couples, however, the desire to become pregnant overrides concerns about conceiving multiple babies.
When too many babies are conceived, removal of one or more fetuses (multifetal pregnancy reduction) can offer improved survival odds for the surviving fetuses. This presents serious emotional and ethical challenges for many people. If you and your partner are considering fertility drug treatment, discuss this possibility with your doctor before starting treatment.
There may be a link between fertility drugs and an increased, long-term risk of ovarian cancer. However, the association between fertility drugs and ovarian cancer hasn't been confirmed.
Surgery
Depending on the cause, surgery may be a treatment option for infertility. Blockages or other problems in the fallopian tubes usually can be surgically repaired. Laparoscopy allows delicate operations on the fallopian tubes.
Infertility due to endometriosis often is more difficult to treat. Although hormones such as those found in birth control pills are effective for treating endometriosis and relieving pain, they haven't been useful in treating infertility. If you have endometriosis, your doctor may treat you with ovulation therapy, in which medication is used to stimulate or regulate ovulation, or in vitro fertilization, in which the egg and sperm are joined in the laboratory and transferred to the uterus.
Assisted reproductive technology (ART)
ART has revolutionized the treatment of infertility. Each year thousands of babies are born in the United States as a result of ART. Medical advances have enabled many couples to have their own biological child. An ART health team includes physicians, psychologists, embryologists, laboratory technicians, nurses and allied health professionals who work together to help infertile couples achieve pregnancy.
The most common forms of ART include:
路In vitro fertilization (IVF). This is the most effective ART technique. IVF involves retrieving mature eggs from a woman, fertilizing them with a man's sperm in a dish in a laboratory and implanting the embryos in the uterus three to five days after fertilization. IVF often is recommended as a first-line therapy and is the treatment of choice if both fallopian tubes are blocked. It's also widely used for a number of other conditions, such as endometriosis, unexplained infertility, cervical factor infertility, male factor infertility and ovulation disorders.
路Electroejaculation. Electric stimulus brings about ejaculation to obtain semen. This procedure can be used in men with a spinal cord injury who can't otherwise achieve ejaculation.
路Surgical sperm aspiration. This technique involves removing sperm from part of the male reproductive tract such as the epididymis, vas deferens or testicle. This allows retrieval of sperm if blockage is present.
路Intracytoplasmic sperm injection (ICSI). This technique consists of a microscopic technique (micromanipulation) in which a single sperm is injected directly into an egg to achieve fertilization in conjunction with the standard IVF procedure. ICSI has been especially helpful in couples who have previously failed to achieve conception with standard techniques. For men with low sperm concentrations, ICSI dramatically improves the likelihood of fertilization.
路Assisted hatching. This technique attempts to assist the implantation of the embryo into the lining of the uterus.
ART works best when the woman has a healthy uterus, responds well to fertility drugs, and ovulates naturally or uses donor eggs. The man should have healthy sperm, or donor sperm should be available. The success rate of ART gradually diminishes after age 32.
Complications of treatment
Certain complications exist with the treatment of infertility. These include:
路Multiple pregnancy. Although the most common complication of ART is multiple pregnancy, ART isn't the direct cause of a number of the extreme cases of septuplets or octuplets reported in the media. The number of quality embryos kept and matured to fetuses and birth ultimately is a decision made by the couple. If too many babies are conceived, the removal of one or more fetuses (multifetal pregnancy reduction) is possible to improve survival odds for the other fetuses.
路Ovarian hyperstimulation syndrome (OHSS). If overstimulated, a woman's ovaries may enlarge and cause pain and bloating. Mild to moderate symptoms often resolve without treatment, although pregnancy may delay recovery. Rarely, fluid accumulates in the abdominal cavity and chest, causing abdominal swelling and shortness of breath. This accumulation of fluid can deplete blood volume and lower blood pressure. Severe cases require emergency treatment. Younger women and those who have polycystic ovary syndrome have a higher risk of developing OHSS than do other women.
路Bleeding or infection. As with any invasive procedure, there is a risk of bleeding or infection.
路Low birth weight. The greatest risk for low birth weight is a multiple pregnancy. In single live births, there may be a greater chance of low birth weight associated with ART.
路Birth defects. Significant concern exists regarding the possible relationship between ART and birth defects. More research is necessary to confirm these findings. Weigh this factor if you're considering whether to take advantage of this treatment. ART is the most successful fertility-enhancing therapy to date.
Prevention
Most types of male infertility aren't preventable. However, avoid drug and tobacco use and excessive alcohol consumption, which may contribute to male infertility. Also, high temperatures can affect sperm production and motility. Although this effect is usually temporary, avoid hot tubs and steam baths.
If you're a man who's uncertain about whether you would eventually like to become a father, don't undergo permanent sterilization, such as a vasectomy. Although surgery to reverse this condition is possible, risks are involved that could affect fertility in other ways.
A woman can increase her chances of becoming pregnant in a number of ways:
路Exercise moderately. Regular exercise is important, but if you're exercising so intensely that your periods are infrequent or absent, your fertility is likely to be impaired.
路Avoid weight extremes. Being overweight or underweight can affect your hormone production and cause infertility.
路Avoid alcohol, tobacco and street drugs. These substances may impair your ability to conceive or produce a healthy child. Don't drink alcohol or smoke tobacco. Avoid illegal drugs such as marijuana and cocaine.
路Limit medications. The use of both prescription and nonprescription drugs can decrease your chance of getting pregnant or keeping a pregnancy. Talk with your doctor about any medications you take regularly.
Coping skills
Coping with infertility can be difficult. It's an issue of the unknown 鈥?you can't predict how long it will last or what the outcome will be. Infertility isn't necessarily solved with hard work. The emotional burden on a couple is considerable, and plans for coping can help.
Planning for emotional turmoil
路Set limits. Decide in advance how many and what kind of procedures are emotionally and financially acceptable for you and your partner and attempt to determine a final limit. Fertility treatments may be expensive and often not covered by insurance companies, and a successful pregnancy often depends on repeated attempts. Some couples become so focused on treatment that they continue with fertility procedures until they are emotionally and financially drained.
路Consider other options. Determine alternatives 鈥?adoption, donor sperm or egg, or even having no children 鈥?as early as possible in the fertility process. This can reduce anxiety during treatments and feelings of hopelessness if conception doesn't occur.
路Talk about your feelings. Locate support groups or counseling services for help before and after treatment to help endure the process and ease the grief should treatment fail.
Managing emotional stress during treatment
路Acupuncture. This ancient therapy may benefit couples who are undergoing fertility treatment.
路Practice relaxation. Cognitive behavior therapy, which uses methods that include relaxation training and stress management, has been associated with higher pregnancy rates.
路Express yourself. Reach out to others rather than repressing guilt or anger.
路Stay in touch with loved ones. Talking to your partner, family and friends can be very beneficial. The best support often comes from loved ones and those closest to you.
Managing emotional effects of the outcome
路Failure. The emotional stress of failure can be devastating even on the most loving and affectionate relationships and for people who've prepared well for the possibility of failure. Don't hesitate to seek professional help if the emotional burdens become too heavy for you or your partner.
路Success. Some studies have indicated that even if fertility treatment is successful, women experience increased stress and fear of failure during pregnancy. Other research suggests that women who achieved pregnancy using fertility treatments felt increasingly better and had higher self-esteem and less anxiety as the pregnancy progressed than did women whose pregnancies didn't involve medical intervention.
路Multiple births. A successful pregnancy that results in multiple births introduces new complexities and emotional problems. The risk of depression is higher in women who have multiple births.
路Parenting. Once a child arrives, parents are more likely to be more anxious and have less confidence and self-esteem. Discuss becoming parents with your partner and plan for the many changes 鈥?challenging and rewarding 鈥?that a child will bring to your lives.
By Mayo Clinic Staff
Jun 15, 2006
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How is she on wetness/dryness. My husband and I have to use lubes often. We already have a daughter, so dryness doesn't predict fertility. But, we found a lube that is better for trying to conceive because it has the same Ph Balance as sperm. It's called PreSeed..google it! Make sure no spit is added to the baby making if you know what I mean because it harms sperm.
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first off, stop trying; just have lots of sex and enjoy it.
Second for you - go commando to allow your scrotum to control the positioning of your testicles for maximum sperm production; underwear inhibit the natural action of warmign and cooling and can lower yoru count.
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Infertility
Introduction
You and your partner have tried for months, perhaps for even more than a year. But despite sexual intercourse without birth control, you've been unable to conceive a child.
If you've been trying to conceive for more than a year, there's a good chance that something may be interfering with your efforts to have a child. Infertility, also known as subfertility, is the inability to conceive a child within one year. Infertility may be due to a single cause in either you or your partner, or a combination of factors that may prevent a pregnancy from occurring or continuing.
Infertility differs from sterility. Being sterile means you're unable to conceive a child. With sterility, you or your partner has a physical problem that precludes the ability to conceive. A diagnosis of infertility simply means that becoming pregnant may be a challenge rather than an impossibility.
Signs and symptoms
Most men with fertility problems have no signs or symptoms. Some men with hormonal problems may note a change in their voice or pattern of hair growth, enlargement of their breasts, or difficulty with sexual function. Infertility in women may be signaled by irregular menstrual periods or associated with conditions that cause pain during menstruation or intercourse.
Causes
The human reproductive process is complex. To accomplish a pregnancy, the intricate processes of ovulation and fertilization need to work just right. For many couples attempting pregnancy, something goes wrong in one or both of these complex processes and causes infertility. Because of the intricate series of events required to begin a pregnancy, many factors may cause a delay in starting your family.
Every month the pituitary gland in a woman's brain sends a signal to her ovaries to prepare an egg for ovulation. The pituitary hormones 鈥?follicle-stimulating hormone (FSH) and luteinizing hormone (LH) 鈥?are involved in stimulating the ovaries to bring an egg to ovulation. A large boost in LH carries a message to the ovarian follicle to release its egg (ovulate). A woman is most fertile at the time of ovulation 鈥?around day 14 of her menstrual cycle 鈥?although the exact time of ovulation varies among women due to different lengths of menstrual cycles.
The egg is then captured by a fallopian tube and is viable for about 24 hours, but its best chance of being fertilized is within the first 12 hours following ovulation. For pregnancy to occur, a sperm must unite with the egg in the fallopian tube during this time. Sperm are capable of fertilizing the egg for up to 72 hours and must be present in the fallopian tube at the same time as the egg for conception to occur. If fertilized, the egg moves into the uterus two to four days later. There it attaches to the uterine lining and begins a nine-month process of growth.
In order for a sperm to reach an egg, many factors are involved in the male fertility process. There must be enough sperm, they must be of the right shape and they must move in the right way. There must be enough semen to transport the sperm. The man also needs to be able to have an erection, and must be able to ejaculate the semen and deliver it into the vagina.
The cause or causes of infertility can involve one or both partners. For many couples having problems with fertility, the male partner is either the sole or a contributing cause. Problems with female fertility are common as well, but present less often than those in the male partner. In both men and women, multiple factors can account for difficulty with fertility. Sometimes the problem isn't really one of infertility, but a more general sexual problem such as erectile dysfunction. Other times, the problem may involve an abnormality in the structure of the reproductive hormones or organs. Certain infections and diseases also can affect fertility.
Causes of male infertility
A number of causes exist for male infertility that may result in impaired sperm count or mobility, or impaired ability to fertilize the egg. The most common causes of male infertility include abnormal sperm production or function, impaired delivery of sperm, conditions related to a man's general health and lifestyle, and overexposure to certain environmental elements:
Abnormal sperm production or function. Most cases of male infertility are due to sperm abnormalities, such as:
路Impaired shape and movement of sperm. Sperm must be properly shaped and able to move rapidly and accurately toward the egg for fertilization to occur. If the shape and structure (morphology) of the sperm are abnormal or the movement (motility) is impaired, sperm may not be able to reach the egg.
路Absent sperm production in testicles. Complete failure of the testicles to produce sperm is rare, affecting very few infertile men.
路Low sperm concentration. A normal sperm concentration is greater than or equal to 20 million sperm per milliliter of semen. A count of 10 million or fewer sperm per milliliter of semen indicates low sperm concentration (subfertility). A count of 40 million sperm or higher per milliliter of semen indicates increased fertility.
路Varicocele. A varicocele is a varicose vein in the scrotum that may prevent normal cooling of the testicle and raise testicular temperature, preventing sperm from surviving.
路Undescended testicle (cryptorchidism). This occurs when one or both testicles fail to descend from the abdomen into the scrotum during fetal development. Undescended testicles can cause mild to severely impaired sperm production. Because the testicles are exposed to the higher internal body temperature compared to the temperature in the scrotum, sperm production may be affected.
路Testosterone deficiency (male hypogonadism). Infertility can result from disorders of the testicles themselves, or an abnormality affecting the hypothalamus or pituitary glands in the brain that produce the hormones that control the testicles.
路Klinefelter's syndrome. In this disorder of the sex chromosomes, a man has two X chromosomes and one Y chromosome instead of one X and one Y. This causes abnormal development of the testicles, resulting in low or absent sperm production. Testosterone production also may be lower.
路Infections. Infection may temporarily affect sperm motility. Repeated bouts of sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), such as chlamydia and gonorrhea, are most often associated with male infertility. These infections can cause scarring and block sperm passage. Mycoplasma is an organism that may fasten itself to sperm cells, making them less motile. If mumps, a viral infection usually affecting young children, occurs after puberty, inflammation of the testicles can impair sperm production. Inflammation of the prostate (prostatitis), urethra or epididymis also may alter sperm motility.
In many instances, no cause for reduced sperm production is found. When sperm concentration is less than 5 million per milliliter of semen, genetic causes could be involved. A blood test can reveal whether there are subtle changes in the Y chromosome.
Impaired delivery of sperm. Problems with the delivery of sperm from the penis into the vagina can cause infertility. These may include:
路Sexual issues. Often treatable, problems with sexual intercourse or technique may affect fertility. Difficulties with erection of the penis (erectile dysfunction), premature ejaculation, painful intercourse (dyspareunia), or psychological or relationship problems can contribute to infertility. Use of lubricants such as oils or petroleum jelly can be toxic to sperm and impair fertility.
路Retrograde ejaculation. This occurs when semen enters the bladder during orgasm rather than emerging out through the penis. Various conditions can cause retrograde ejaculation including diabetes, bladder, prostate or urethral surgery, and the use of psychiatric or antihypertensive drugs.
路Blockage of epididymis or ejaculatory ducts. Some men are born with blockage of the part of the testicle that contains sperm (epididymis) or ejaculatory ducts. And some men who seek treatment for infertility lack the tubes that carry sperm (vasa deferentia).
路No semen (ejaculate). The absence of ejaculate may occur in men with spinal cord injuries or diseases. This fluid transports sperm through the penis into the vagina.
路Misplaced urinary opening (hypospadias). A birth defect can cause the urinary (urethral) opening to be abnormally located on the underside of the penis. If not surgically corrected, this condition can prevent sperm from reaching the cervix.
路Anti-sperm antibodies. Antibodies that target sperm and weaken or disable them usually occur after surgical blockage of part of the vas deferens for male sterilization (vasectomy). Presence of these antibodies may complicate the reversal of a vasectomy.
路Cystic fibrosis. Men with cystic fibrosis often have missing or obstructed vasa deferentia.
General health and lifestyle. A man's general health and lifestyle may affect fertility. Some common causes of infertility related to health and lifestyle include:
路Emotional stress. Stress may interfere with certain hormones needed to produce sperm. Your sperm count may be affected if you experience excessive or prolonged emotional stress. A problem with fertility itself can sometimes become long term and discouraging, producing more stress. Infertility can affect social relationships and sexual functioning.
路Malnutrition. Deficiencies in nutrients such as vitamin C, selenium, zinc and folate may contribute to infertility.
路Obesity. Increased body mass may be associated with fertility problems in men.
路Cancer and its treatment. Both radiation and chemotherapy treatment for cancer can impair sperm production, sometimes severely. The closer radiation treatment is to the testicles, the higher the risk of infertility. Removal of one or both testicles due to cancer also may affect male fertility. You may want to consider freezing (cryopreserving) your sperm before cancer treatment to ensure future fertility.
路Alcohol and drugs. Alcohol or drug dependency can be associated with general ill health and reduced fertility. The use of certain drugs also can contribute to infertility. Anabolic steroids, for example, which are taken to stimulate muscle strength and growth, can cause the testicles to shrink and sperm production to decrease.
路Other medical conditions. A severe injury or major surgery can affect male fertility. Certain diseases or conditions, such as diabetes, thyroid disease, HIV/AIDS, Cushing's syndrome, anemia, heart attack, and liver or kidney failure, may be associated with infertility.
路Age. A gradual decline in fertility is common in men older than 35.
Environmental exposure. Overexposure to certain environmental elements such as heat, toxins and chemicals can reduce sperm count either directly by affecting testicular function or indirectly by altering the male hormonal system. Specific causes include:
路Pesticides and other chemicals. Herbicides and insecticides may cause female hormone-like effects in the male body and may be associated with reduced sperm production. Exposure to such chemicals also may contribute to testicular cancer. Men exposed to hydrocarbons, such as ethylbenzene, benzene, toluene, xylen and aromatic solvents used in paint, varnishes, glues, metal degreasers and other products, may be at risk of infertility. Men with high exposure to lead also may be more at risk.
路Testicular exposure to overheating. Frequent use of saunas or hot tubs can elevate your core body temperature. This may impair your sperm production and lower your sperm count.
路Substance abuse. Cocaine or heavy marijuana use may temporarily reduce the number and quality of your sperm.
路Tobacco smoking. Men who smoke may have a lower sperm count than do those who don't smoke.
Causes of female infertility
The most common causes of female infertility include fallopian tube damage or blockage, endometriosis, ovulation disorders, elevated prolactin, polycystic ovary syndrome, early menopause, benign uterine fibroids and pelvic adhesions:
Fallopian tube damage or blockage. This condition usually results from inflammation of the fallopian tube (salpingitis). Chlamydia is the most frequent cause. Tubal inflammation may go unnoticed or cause pain and fever.
Tubal damage with scarring is the major risk factor of a pregnancy in which the fertilized egg is unable to make its way through the fallopian tube to implant in the uterus (ectopic pregnancy). One episode of tubal infection may cause fertility difficulties. The risk of ectopic pregnancy increases with each occurrence of tubal infection.
Endometriosis. Endometriosis occurs when the tissue that makes up the lining of the uterus grows outside of the uterus. This tissue most commonly is implanted on the ovaries or the lining of the abdomen near the uterus, fallopian tubes and ovaries. These implants respond to the hormonal cycle and grow, shed and bleed in sync with the lining of the uterus each month, which can lead to scarring and inflammation. Pelvic pain and infertility are common in women with endometriosis.
Infertility in endometriosis also may be due to:
路Ovarian cysts (endometriomas). Ovarian cysts may indicate advanced endometriosis and often are associated with reduced fertility. Endometriomas can be treated with surgery.
路Scar tissue. Endometriosis may cause rigid webs of scar tissue between the uterus, ovaries and fallopian tubes. This may prevent the transfer of the egg to the fallopian tube.
Ovulation disorders. Some cases of female infertility are caused by ovulation disorders. Disruption in the part of the brain that regulates ovulation (hypothalamic-pituitary axis) can cause deficiencies in luteinizing hormone (LH) and follicle-stimulating hormone (FSH). Even slight irregularities in the hormone system can affect ovulation.
Specific causes of hypothalamic-pituitary disorders include:
路Direct injury to the hypothalamus or pituitary gland
路Pituitary tumors
路Excessive exercise
路Anorexia nervosa
Elevated prolactin (hyperprolactinemia). The hormone prolactin stimulates breast milk production. High levels in women who aren't pregnant or nursing may affect ovulation. An elevation in prolactin levels may also indicate the presence of a pituitary tumor. In addition, some drugs can elevate levels of prolactin. Milk flow not related to pregnancy or nursing (galactorrhea) can be a sign of high prolactin.
Polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS). An increase in androgen hormone production causes PCOS. In women with increased body mass, elevated androgen production may come from stimulation by higher levels of insulin. In lean women, the elevated levels of androgen may be stimulated by a higher ratio of luteinizing hormone (LH). Lack of menstruation (amenorrhea) or infrequent menses (oligomenorrhea) are common symptoms in women with PCOS.
In PCOS, increased androgen production prevents the follicles of the ovaries from producing a mature egg. Small follicles that start to grow but can't mature to ovulation remain within the ovary. A persistent lack of ovulation may lead to mild enlargement of the ovaries.
Without ovulation, the hormone progesterone isn't produced and estrogen levels remain constant. Elevated levels of androgen may cause increased dark or thick hair on the chin, upper lip or lower abdomen as well as acne and oily skin.
Early menopause (premature ovarian failure). Early menopause is the absence of menstruation and the early depletion of ovarian follicles before age 35. Although the cause is often unknown, certain conditions are associated with early menopause, including:
路Autoimmune disease. The body produces antibodies to attack its own tissue, in this case the ovary. This may be associated with hypothyroidism (too little thyroid hormone).
路Radiation or chemotherapy for the treatment of cancer.
路Tobacco smoking.
Benign uterine fibroids.Fibroids are benign tumors in the wall of the uterus and are common in women in their 30s. Occasionally they may cause infertility by interfering with the contour of the uterine cavity, blocking the fallopian tubes.
Pelvic adhesions. Pelvic adhesions are bands of scar tissue that bind organs after pelvic infection, appendicitis, or abdominal or pelvic surgery. They may limit the functioning of the ovaries and fallopian tubes and impair fertility. Scar tissue formation inside the uterine cavity after a surgical procedure may result in a closed uterus and ceased menstruation (Asherman's syndrome). This is most common following surgery to control uterine bleeding after giving birth.
Other causes. A number of other causes can lead to infertility in women:
路Medications. Temporary infertility may occur with the use of certain medications. In most cases, fertility is restored when the medication is stopped.
路Thyroid problems. Disorders of the thyroid gland, either too much thyroid hormone (hyperthyroidism) or too little (hypothyroidism), can interrupt the menstrual cycle and cause infertility.
路Cancer and its treatment. Certain cancers 鈥?particularly female reproductive cancers 鈥?often severely impair female fertility. Both radiation and chemotherapy may affect a woman's ability to reproduce. Chemotherapy may impair reproductive function and fertility more severely in men than in women.
路Other medical conditions. Medical conditions associated with delayed puberty or amenorrhea, such as Cushing's disease, sickle cell disease, HIV/AIDS, kidney disease and diabetes, can affect a woman's fertility.
Risk factors
Many of the risk factors for both male and female infertility are the same. They include:
路Age. Age is the strongest predictor of female fertility. After about age 32, a woman's fertility potential gradually declines. A woman does not renew her oocytes (eggs). Infertility in older women may be due to a higher risk of chromosomal abnormalities that occur in the eggs as they age. Older women are also more likely to have health problems that may interfere with fertility. The risk of miscarriage also increases with a woman's age. A gradual decline in fertility is possible in men older than 35.
路Tobacco smoking. Women who smoke tobacco may reduce their chances of becoming pregnant and the possible benefit of fertility treatment. Miscarriages are more frequent in women who smoke.
路Alcohol. There's no certain level of safe alcohol use during conception or pregnancy.
路Body mass. Extremes in body mass 鈥?either too high (body mass index, or BMI, of greater than 25.0) or too low (BMI of lower than 20.0) 鈥?may affect ovulation and increase the risk of infertility.
路Being overweight. Among American women, infertility often is due to a sedentary lifestyle and being overweight.
路Being underweight. Women at risk include those with eating disorders, such as anorexia nervosa or bulimia, and women following a very low-calorie or restrictive diet. Strict vegetarians also may experience infertility problems due to a lack of important nutrients such as vitamin B-12, zinc, iron and folic acid. Marathon runners, dancers and others who exercise very intensely are more prone to menstrual irregularities and infertility.
When to seek medical advice
In general, don't be concerned about infertility unless you and your partner have been trying regularly to conceive for at least one year. However, if you plan to conceive and you're a woman older than 30 or haven't had a menstrual flow for longer than six months, seek a medical evaluation. If you have a history of irregular or painful menstrual cycles, pelvic pain, endometriosis, pelvic inflammatory disease (PID) or repeated miscarriages, schedule a consultation with your doctor sooner. If you're a man with a low sperm count or a history of testicular, prostate or sexual problems, consider seeking help earlier.
Screening and diagnosis
If you and your partner are unable to achieve conception within a reasonable time and would like to do so, seek help. The woman's gynecologist, the man's urologist or your family doctor can determine whether there's a problem that requires a specialist or clinic that treats infertility problems.
Some infertile couples have more than one cause of their infertility. Thus, your doctor will usually begin a comprehensive infertility examination of both you and your partner.
Before undergoing infertility testing, be aware that a certain amount of commitment is required. Your doctor or clinic will need to determine what your sexual habits are and may make recommendations about how you may need to change those habits. The tests and periods of trial and error may extend over several months.
Evaluation is expensive and in some cases involves operations and uncomfortable procedures, and the expenses may not be reimbursed by many medical plans. Finally, there's no guarantee, even after all testing and counseling, that conception will occur. However, for couples who are eager to have their own child, such an evaluation is best. It may result in a successful pregnancy.
Tests for men
For a man to be fertile, the testicles must produce enough healthy sperm, and the sperm must be ejaculated effectively into the woman's vagina. Tests for male infertility attempt to determine whether any of these processes are impaired.
路General physical examination. This includes examination of your genitals and questions concerning your medical history, illnesses and disabilities, medications and sexual habits.
路Semen analysis. Your doctor may ask for a specimen of ejaculated semen. This is generally obtained by masturbating or by interrupting intercourse and ejaculating your semen into a clean container. Your doctor will provide instructions. Such a specimen may be required more than once. A laboratory analyzes your semen specimen for quantity, color and presence of infections or blood. Detailed analysis of the sperm also is done. The laboratory will determine the number of sperm present and any abnormalities in the shape and movement (motility) of the sperm. Often sperm counts fluctuate from one specimen to the next.
路Hormone testing. A blood test to determine the level of testosterone and other male hormones is common.
Tests for women
For a woman to be fertile, the ovaries must release healthy eggs regularly, and her reproductive tract must allow the eggs and sperm to pass into her fallopian tubes for a possible union. Her reproductive organs must be healthy and functional.
After your doctor asks questions regarding your health history, menstrual cycle and sexual habits, you'll undergo a general physical examination. This includes a regular gynecologic examination. Specific fertility tests may include:
路Confirmation of ovulation. A blood test is sometimes performed to determine the levels of hormones involved in successful ovulation.
路Hysterosalpingography. This test evaluates the condition of your uterus and fallopian tubes. Fluid is injected into your uterus, and an X-ray is taken to determine whether the fluid progresses out of the uterus and into your fallopian tubes and general peritoneal cavity. Blockage or problems often can be located and may be corrected with medication or surgery.
路Laparoscopy. Performed under general anesthesia, this surgical procedure involves inserting a thin viewing device into your abdomen and pelvis to examine your fallopian tubes, ovaries and uterus. A small incision (8 to 10 millimeters) is made beneath your navel, and a needle is inserted into your abdominal cavity. A small amount of gas (usually carbon dioxide) is inserted into the abdomen to create space for entry of the laparoscope 鈥?an illuminated, fiber-optic telescope.
The most common problems identified by laparoscopy are endometriosis and scarring. Your doctor can also detect blockages or irregularities of the fallopian tubes and uterus. Often a blue dye is injected into the cervical canal and through the uterus and fallopian tubes to determine whether they are open. At the end of the procedure, the gas and laparoscope are drawn out and the incision is closed. Laparoscopy generally is done on an outpatient basis.
路Basal body temperature. Although this test was once a standard, basal body temperature charting is used less often today. Charting a woman's body temperature doesn't give as precise time of ovulation as earlier believed.
路Urinary luteinizing hormone (LH) detector kits. A number of at-home kits are available to test your LH level. Although these kits may be helpful, they also can be inaccurate and misleading. Consult your doctor before using one.
路Ovarian reserve testing. Testing may be done to determine the potential effectiveness of the eggs after ovulation. This approach often begins with hormone testing early in a woman's menstrual cycle.
Not everyone needs to undergo all, or even many, of these tests before the cause of infertility is found. Which tests are used and their sequence depend on discussion and agreement between you and your doctor.
Unexplained infertility
In some infertile couples, no specific cause is found (unexplained infertility). Couples receiving the diagnosis of unexplained infertility are more likely to seek multiple health care providers and be influenced by the experiences of family and friends or literature that promises new hope. Although infertility is unexplained, the pregnancy rate for these couples is among the highest.
Complications
Complications of being infertile often involve strong emotions and may trigger negative feelings between you and your partner. These may include:
路Depression
路Guilt
路Anger
路Stress
路Disappointment
路Resentment
路Blame
路Fear of losing partner because of infertility
路Diminished confidence and self-esteem
Treatment
Treatment of infertility depends on the cause, the duration of the problem, the age of the partners and their specific wishes. Some causes of infertility can't be corrected. However, various means of insemination or embryo transfer may be possible so that a woman can still become pregnant.
Nonsurgical fertility treatment falls into two main categories:
路Restoring or bringing about fertility
路Assisted reproductive technology (ART)
Restoring or bringing about fertility
These approaches can involve steps related to the male or to the female, or both.
Sperm survive in the female reproductive tract for up to 72 hours, and an egg can be fertilized for up to 24 hours after ovulation. Increasing the frequency of intercourse increases the chances for conception.
Other approaches that involve the male include:
路Treatment of general sexual problems. Addressing impotence or premature ejaculation can improve fertility. Treatment for these problems often is with medication or behavioral approaches.
路Addressing lack of sperm. When the source of infertility lies in the man's sperm, or lack of it, restoring or initiating fertility is sometimes possible. For example, in some instances, surgical correction of a varicocele will restore fertility. Problems with the testicles, prostate gland, seminal vesicle and urethra also can be treated. When sperm production is impaired because of damage to the sperm-producing areas of the testicle, drug treatment has little benefit. In rare instances when sperm production is impaired because of a pituitary problem, treatment with pituitary hormones called gonadotropins may help. When infection hampers sperm production, both you and your partner will need treatment.
Fertility drugs (ovulation induction)
Fertility drugs are the primary treatment for women who are infertile due to ovulation disorders. These medications regulate or induce ovulation. In general, they exert actions designed to work like natural follicle-stimulating hormone (FSH) and luteinizing hormone (LH). Commonly used fertility drugs include:
路Clomiphene citrate (Clomid, Serophene). This drug is taken orally and stimulates ovulation in women who have PCOS or other ovulatory disorders. It causes the pituitary gland to release more FSH and LH, which stimulate the growth of an ovarian follicle containing an egg.
路Human menopausal gonadotropin, or hMG (Repronex, Pergonal). This injected prescription medication is for women who don't menstruate on their own due to the failure of the pituitary gland to stimulate ovulation. Unlike clomiphene, which stimulates the pituitary gland, hMG and other gonadotropins directly stimulate the ovaries. This drug contains both FSH and LH.
路Follicle-stimulating hormone, or FSH (Gonal-F, Follistim, Bravelle). FSH is essentially hMG without the LH. Like hMG, it works by stimulating the ovaries to mature egg follicles.
路Human chorionic gonadotropin, or hCG (Ovidrel, Pregnyl). Used in combination with clomiphene, hMG and FSH, this drug stimulates the follicle to release its egg (ovulate).
路Gonadotropin-releasing hormone (Gn-RH) analogs. This treatment is for women with irregular ovulatory cycles or who ovulate prematurely 鈥?before the lead follicle is mature enough 鈥?during hMG treatment. Gn-RH analogs deliver constant Gn-RH to the pituitary gland, which alters hormone production, so that a physician can induce follicle growth with FSH.
路Letrozole (Femara). This drug is in a class of medications called aromatase inhibitors, which are approved for treatment of advanced breast cancer. Doctors sometimes prescribe letrozole for women who don't ovulate on their own and who haven't responded to treatment with clomiphene citrate. Letrozole is not approved by the U.S. Food and Drug Administration for inducing ovulation. The drug's manufacturer has warned doctors not to use the drug for fertility purposes because of possible adverse health effects. These adverse effects may include birth defects and miscarriage.
路Metformin (Glucophage). This oral drug is taken to boost ovulation. It's used when insulin resistance is known or suspected.
路Bromocriptine. This medication is for women whose ovulation cycles are irregular due to elevated levels of prolactin, the hormone that stimulates milk production in new mothers. Bromocriptine inhibits prolactin production.
Injectable fertility drugs significantly increase the chance of multiple births. The use of these drugs requires careful monitoring with a combination of blood tests of hormones and ultrasound measurement of ovarian follicle size. Generally, the greater the number of fetuses, the higher the risk of premature labor. Babies born prematurely are at increased risk of health and developmental problems. The risk is greater for triplets than it is for twins or single pregnancies.
The risk of multiple pregnancies can be reduced. If a woman requires an hCG injection to trigger ovulation, and ultrasound exams show that too many follicles have developed, she and her doctor can decide to withhold the hCG injection. For many couples, however, the desire to become pregnant overrides concerns about conceiving multiple babies.
When too many babies are conceived, removal of one or more fetuses (multifetal pregnancy reduction) can offer improved survival odds for the surviving fetuses. This presents serious emotional and ethical challenges for many people. If you and your partner are considering fertility drug treatment, discuss this possibility with your doctor before starting treatment.
There may be a link between fertility drugs and an increased, long-term risk of ovarian cancer. However, the association between fertility drugs and ovarian cancer hasn't been confirmed.
Surgery
Depending on the cause, surgery may be a treatment option for infertility. Blockages or other problems in the fallopian tubes usually can be surgically repaired. Laparoscopy allows delicate operations on the fallopian tubes.
Infertility due to endometriosis often is more difficult to treat. Although hormones such as those found in birth control pills are effective for treating endometriosis and relieving pain, they haven't been useful in treating infertility. If you have endometriosis, your doctor may treat you with ovulation therapy, in which medication is used to stimulate or regulate ovulation, or in vitro fertilization, in which the egg and sperm are joined in the laboratory and transferred to the uterus.
Assisted reproductive technology (ART)
ART has revolutionized the treatment of infertility. Each year thousands of babies are born in the United States as a result of ART. Medical advances have enabled many couples to have their own biological child. An ART health team includes physicians, psychologists, embryologists, laboratory technicians, nurses and allied health professionals who work together to help infertile couples achieve pregnancy.
The most common forms of ART include:
路In vitro fertilization (IVF). This is the most effective ART technique. IVF involves retrieving mature eggs from a woman, fertilizing them with a man's sperm in a dish in a laboratory and implanting the embryos in the uterus three to five days after fertilization. IVF often is recommended as a first-line therapy and is the treatment of choice if both fallopian tubes are blocked. It's also widely used for a number of other conditions, such as endometriosis, unexplained infertility, cervical factor infertility, male factor infertility and ovulation disorders.
路Electroejaculation. Electric stimulus brings about ejaculation to obtain semen. This procedure can be used in men with a spinal cord injury who can't otherwise achieve ejaculation.
路Surgical sperm aspiration. This technique involves removing sperm from part of the male reproductive tract such as the epididymis, vas deferens or testicle. This allows retrieval of sperm if blockage is present.
路Intracytoplasmic sperm injection (ICSI). This technique consists of a microscopic technique (micromanipulation) in which a single sperm is injected directly into an egg to achieve fertilization in conjunction with the standard IVF procedure. ICSI has been especially helpful in couples who have previously failed to achieve conception with standard techniques. For men with low sperm concentrations, ICSI dramatically improves the likelihood of fertilization.
路Assisted hatching. This technique attempts to assist the implantation of the embryo into the lining of the uterus.
ART works best when the woman has a healthy uterus, responds well to fertility drugs, and ovulates naturally or uses donor eggs. The man should have healthy sperm, or donor sperm should be available. The success rate of ART gradually diminishes after age 32.
Complications of treatment
Certain complications exist with the treatment of infertility. These include:
路Multiple pregnancy. Although the most common complication of ART is multiple pregnancy, ART isn't the direct cause of a number of the extreme cases of septuplets or octuplets reported in the media. The number of quality embryos kept and matured to fetuses and birth ultimately is a decision made by the couple. If too many babies are conceived, the removal of one or more fetuses (multifetal pregnancy reduction) is possible to improve survival odds for the other fetuses.
路Ovarian hyperstimulation syndrome (OHSS). If overstimulated, a woman's ovaries may enlarge and cause pain and bloating. Mild to moderate symptoms often resolve without treatment, although pregnancy may delay recovery. Rarely, fluid accumulates in the abdominal cavity and chest, causing abdominal swelling and shortness of breath. This accumulation of fluid can deplete blood volume and lower blood pressure. Severe cases require emergency treatment. Younger women and those who have polycystic ovary syndrome have a higher risk of developing OHSS than do other women.
路Bleeding or infection. As with any invasive procedure, there is a risk of bleeding or infection.
路Low birth weight. The greatest risk for low birth weight is a multiple pregnancy. In single live births, there may be a greater chance of low birth weight associated with ART.
路Birth defects. Significant concern exists regarding the possible relationship between ART and birth defects. More research is necessary to confirm these findings. Weigh this factor if you're considering whether to take advantage of this treatment. ART is the most successful fertility-enhancing therapy to date.
Prevention
Most types of male infertility aren't preventable. However, avoid drug and tobacco use and excessive alcohol consumption, which may contribute to male infertility. Also, high temperatures can affect sperm production and motility. Although this effect is usually temporary, avoid hot tubs and steam baths.
If you're a man who's uncertain about whether you would eventually like to become a father, don't undergo permanent sterilization, such as a vasectomy. Although surgery to reverse this condition is possible, risks are involved that could affect fertility in other ways.
A woman can increase her chances of becoming pregnant in a number of ways:
路Exercise moderately. Regular exercise is important, but if you're exercising so intensely that your periods are infrequent or absent, your fertility is likely to be impaired.
路Avoid weight extremes. Being overweight or underweight can affect your hormone production and cause infertility.
路Avoid alcohol, tobacco and street drugs. These substances may impair your ability to conceive or produce a healthy child. Don't drink alcohol or smoke tobacco. Avoid illegal drugs such as marijuana and cocaine.
路Limit medications. The use of both prescription and nonprescription drugs can decrease your chance of getting pregnant or keeping a pregnancy. Talk with your doctor about any medications you take regularly.
Coping skills
Coping with infertility can be difficult. It's an issue of the unknown 鈥?you can't predict how long it will last or what the outcome will be. Infertility isn't necessarily solved with hard work. The emotional burden on a couple is considerable, and plans for coping can help.
Planning for emotional turmoil
路Set limits. Decide in advance how many and what kind of procedures are emotionally and financially acceptable for you and your partner and attempt to determine a final limit. Fertility treatments may be expensive and often not covered by insurance companies, and a successful pregnancy often depends on repeated attempts. Some couples become so focused on treatment that they continue with fertility procedures until they are emotionally and financially drained.
路Consider other options. Determine alternatives 鈥?adoption, donor sperm or egg, or even having no children 鈥?as early as possible in the fertility process. This can reduce anxiety during treatments and feelings of hopelessness if conception doesn't occur.
路Talk about your feelings. Locate support groups or counseling services for help before and after treatment to help endure the process and ease the grief should treatment fail.
Managing emotional stress during treatment
路Acupuncture. This ancient therapy may benefit couples who are undergoing fertility treatment.
路Practice relaxation. Cognitive behavior therapy, which uses methods that include relaxation training and stress management, has been associated with higher pregnancy rates.
路Express yourself. Reach out to others rather than repressing guilt or anger.
路Stay in touch with loved ones. Talking to your partner, family and friends can be very beneficial. The best support often comes from loved ones and those closest to you.
Managing emotional effects of the outcome
路Failure. The emotional stress of failure can be devastating even on the most loving and affectionate relationships and for people who've prepared well for the possibility of failure. Don't hesitate to seek professional help if the emotional burdens become too heavy for you or your partner.
路Success. Some studies have indicated that even if fertility treatment is successful, women experience increased stress and fear of failure during pregnancy. Other research suggests that women who achieved pregnancy using fertility treatments felt increasingly better and had higher self-esteem and less anxiety as the pregnancy progressed than did women whose pregnancies didn't involve medical intervention.
路Multiple births. A successful pregnancy that results in multiple births introduces new complexities and emotional problems. The risk of depression is higher in women who have multiple births.
路Parenting. Once a child arrives, parents are more likely to be more anxious and have less confidence and self-esteem. Discuss becoming parents with your partner and plan for the many changes 鈥?challenging and rewarding 鈥?that a child will bring to your lives.
By Mayo Clinic Staff
Jun 15, 2006
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http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=鈥?/a>Guys advice here please, i have been trying to get my wife pregenant?
Wear boxers. If the ';boys'; are hot because they are too close to your body heat, it can lower your sperm count. Taking vitamins like vitamin E and zinc, and even altering your diet can also increase sperm counts. Don't take really hot baths or showers either (for the same reason). Stress, smoking, and being overweight can also decrease counts. How long have you been trying? It can sometimes take 6 months or more for a couple to conceive, even if neither partner have any problems. There are many books on the subject. I suggest you do some research at a library.
How is she on wetness/dryness. My husband and I have to use lubes often. We already have a daughter, so dryness doesn't predict fertility. But, we found a lube that is better for trying to conceive because it has the same Ph Balance as sperm. It's called PreSeed..google it! Make sure no spit is added to the baby making if you know what I mean because it harms sperm.
After finishing, make sure she lays there for 20-30 mins to allow sperm to not have to fight gravity. This is optional, but with our first, I would prop my legs against the head board. Don't know if that helped, but we did get prenant within the first 6 wks of trying. We also had sex a couple times a day in succession, but that was luck that my hubbys sperm seemed strong. We are TTC and will find out soon if these methods have worked in our favor again.
Best of luck to you and your wife!
ok, to start you need to make sure that both of you are relative stress free because stress makes it hard for the sperm to reach the egg, second the need (and this is the tricky part) to try to give her miltiple orgasms, studies show that women who have miltiple orgasms have a higher chance of retaining sperm. keep trying with the kid and good luck
first off, stop trying; just have lots of sex and enjoy it.
Second for you - go commando to allow your scrotum to control the positioning of your testicles for maximum sperm production; underwear inhibit the natural action of warmign and cooling and can lower yoru count.
third, avoid medications and other ingestables that will interfere with normal functioning. Also, get more exercise together by walking or swimming or whatever. And make sur eyou are both eating well, sleeping well and generally feeling good.
fourth, remove stress whether at work or school ro at home. Relax; life is too short to spend it being all steressed out over things especially if they are things you can;t change anyway.
sixth, get romantic - both of you need ot be a cross between a hopeless romantic and a horny teenager. Put that zing back into yoru life together as well as your sex. Try new ways, be spontaneous and even go for erotic weekends in a remote chalet or whaerever you can escape to.
seventh - if nothign works after three months then it;s time to take yoru genitals to a doctor and get them thoroughly checked. Insist yoru doctor examine everything and check your sperm count as well. If he finds a problem then you can work with yoru doctor on it. If you are okay then it is her turn to see her doctor. I always suggest the guy go frst since it is muich easier and less invasive (although still embarassing) for a guy to strip off and get all his private parts examined).
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