GUYS Advice: What are/were his intentions? (Serious answers please)

This is kind of long, but necessary to understand it all.


This guy and I have known each other for almost three years. When we first met, he initiated everything. He said I was attractive and intelligent and would want to get to know me better. Great I thought. I accepted his offer for dinner (after a while). We had a fantastic time! We had so much in common and there was obvious chemistry. We work in the same field. But there was a problem. I had just finalized my divorce so I wasn't ready for a relationship and I'm not the type to date around, especially because I have a son. So we remained friends. He didn't like to hear that, but understood. About a year and a half later, I contacted him and we sparked up again. For almost an entire month everything was going great. I was glad I had waited. He did and said things that made me feel like this was the one. He joined me for my birthday (big deal for me), met his closest friends, and he spent time with me and my son. He said I broke his heart the first time. But I assured him I was ready this time. So we proceeded to see each other. He said I was amazing, wonderful, he called me sweetie, and he said I was the girl he could picture his future with. Things were moving kind of fast for both of us. So we mutually decided to take things slow. Turns out slow for him was STOP. Turns out that during that year and a half he got seriously involved with someone (friends didn't like her). He felt he was not truly over her. I definitely did not want to be the rebound girl. This was starting to sound like bad timing, again. So we decided to be just friends, again. But I did become emotionally attached to him. We were never intimate. We both agreed that was something that needed to wait. He said that I was ';scary';, meaning I was the type of girl that a guy can get real serious about. He said he needed to get me out of his mind. Why would he say that?


Now we are down to emails and texts. Last time I saw him was 4 months ago. We were both at the same meeting for work. He came up to me and gave me the biggest hug ever. It felt so good to be in his arms again, even for one moment. My co-workers said that he kept looking at me throughout the meeting. After the meeting, he asked if I had time to talk. I still had a lot of work to do so I said no. Plus, I didn't want him to think that I would just drop everything for him. He said we'd call each other. To this day, no phone call. Just emails and texts. And I usually initiate them. My question (finally) is should I continue to think there still is hope? Or should I give up completely? Help!GUYS Advice: What are/were his intentions? (Serious answers please)
[[[ You said: ';He said he needed to get me out of his mind. Why would he say that? ]]]





It sounds like, you could be the type that he might have been obsessed with.





[[[ You said: ';Or should I give up completely?'; ]]]





It depends on how you feel and his side of the story. You sound like you still ';have those bells ringing'; about him. He might be confused with his relationships since you did say, he had another friend. On the other hand, he might have been obsessed with you. I'm not really sure if obsession and relationship would work side by side for the best. Well, if it does, hope you wouldn't be wondering if he acts a certain way that only he can explain it to you as to why. (could include his non-responses)





If he is not into or about a relationship anymore with you, he will not initiate anything if you stop. If that bothers you, spill it out now and see where you both stand about each other, so you wouldn't blame you if it dies off. All the best-!!